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[torturemykat]

serious question

When you find out that someone extremely close to you lied to you about something that you are trying to let go of what would you do?

Comments

[glittrinureye]

the main reason people lie, in my general experience, is to protect you. this makes things worse, but maybe they had good intentions? i'd be pretty forgiving, but i would let them know where i stand on the whole thing. and i would tell them if they did it again, i would not be so forgiving. well i would, but i let my friends walk all over me. don't do that. anyway, i miss you and love ya, and contact me soon!

[torturemykat]

Thanks babe. I miss you too. You should have come to the show in PH last night. It was awesome.

[_____once]

smack a hoe

but really i think it would depend on what it was because i was lied to by just about every person i'm close to. at first i was really angry but now i see why they did what they did although i wish they would have been up front to begin with.

[torturemykat]

Good point. I know that ppl lie more to cover up the lie they were trying to pass off. But there are some things you just don't lie about.

[nimroddess]

I don't know what you're talking about, but you sometimes jump to conclusions and take rumors for granted. The first thing I recommend you do is confront the person to make sure you've got all the details in the right order.

[heinous_x]

Confront them about the lie or betrayal. If they don't want to own up to it and muster up a simple "I'm sorry, it won't happen again", in my opinion, you shouldn't be close friends with them anymore.

Just my two cents

[torturemykat]

Thanks for the comment.

I dug a bit deeper into the story and of course there are two sides. Everything is fine now.

I can't help but to read into this. I told you guys my side and you weren't interested. There was no apology that was owed. It sucks for me to have had to lose 2 of the most important people in my life over it. But I guess this is how life works.

DO me a favor though. The next time you feel nostalgic and want to talk again for a few days...don't do it unless you plan to keep talking to me. It was really hard for me again.

[heinous_x]

DO me a favor though. The next time you feel nostalgic and want to talk again for a few days...don't do it unless you plan to keep talking to me. It was really hard for me again.

Ali started talking to Kaiti again at around the same time that I wanted to 'make peace' with you. "Somehow" she (Kaiti) knows about the things that happened last year. We didn't appreciate that. Instead of making a big shit about it I just let it go. It hurt.

[torturemykat]

I don't remember how I started talking to Kaiti again. It was a brief period of time. I think it was when she was coming into Chart Hits for the O.C. I told her that we were talking again and then when you stopped talking to me I told her that too. She knew before that you guys stopped talking to me because of Kristina. I didn't lie to her about anything. I didn't talk shit. I told her the truth. It wasn't about bad-mouthing you and Ali. Jesus, G, am I that low? It makes me wonder if you guys didn't know me at all.

I am glad that I know why you guys went away again.