You can't control your emotions; you can control only what you do about them

[traceroo]

I remind other people so often that you can't control your emotions; you can control only what you do about them. I had to take a dose of my own medicine today. A good friend gave me the honor of making me one of the first friends she told that she's expecting -- and no, I don't believe a single one of you out there reading this is friends with the

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Yay!

[sans_peur]

...forward momentum, activate!

[clementinelly]

It's only human, you know? And it's okay... specially since you have also taken measures to change things you can control.

I have been having similar feelings whenever I am looking at happy wholesome families with kids and their parents... I don't let me get to me, and I am honestly happy for their happiness... but I can't deny that tinge of envy.

Here's to better days ahead :). Cheers.

[kumir_k9]

Boy, that is really weird. I went out to dinner with a friend last night and the phrase, "You can't control your emotions; you can only control what you do about them" came up several times. It's not a phrase I hear often, so it's a little freaky for it to come up in two back-to-back conversations.

Anyway, good for you acting upon it and moving forward.

[chinook_wind]

I don't know anyone in the world who wouldn't feel this way in your situation. On the other hand, I also don't know too many people who would react as excellently as you have to the feelings. You are EXCELLENT to yourself.

[tlm_lorelei]

I had the same thing happen to me in reverse. My former best friend (loooooooooong story, no need to get into it here) had a baby. Almost a year-to-the-day later I had a baby. Then a couple years later, I got pregnant again. They were the first people we shared the news with.

A week later she confessed to me that she was jealous, and hurt, and a bunch of other things, because she felt she should have been pregnant first etc, and how she hated herself for it. But I didn't hate her for it. Because it was a *human* reaction, and I understood it.

So kudos to you for *doing* something positive about the negative feelings. **hugs**

Human Reaction -- but keep it to yourself!

[traceroo]

Your friend's reaction was indeed very human -- but she should've kept it to herself rather than burden you with it! This is what blogs are for. :)

Trace