about sexual fantasies

[siegeengine]

and visualizations.

Just a question concerning how people see themselves.

Comments

[ftmichael]

A 'marker'? No. A lot of Trans people do that though. Not all of us, but a lot of us.

You'll get more response over in transgender, by the way.

[siegeengine]

ah. cool. I hadn't thought of that.

actually, I'm kind of scared to go over there, because.. not being trans enough and all that. I mean, I know everyone is nice and all... I just have a teeny bit of an anxiety disorder.

anyway. Thanks for the info! :)
*hugs*

[ftmichael]

There is no such thing as not being Trans enough. Go before I cattle-prod you. :P

Check out genderqueer also!

[gair]

I'm a bio-female person who's not only 'not trans enough', but not trans at all* - and I experience my sexual body (in fantasies and in practice) as male. I don't know how rare that is, but the amount of m/m porn that gets written by bio-female people (not to mention the reams and reams of love poetry in the European tradition written by men from a female point of view) suggests to me that it's more common than you'd think. But I'm still figuring out my relationship to the idea of 'trans' as an ally and as a kinda genderqueer boy-type woman.

*I say that so as not to claim experience/knowledge that I don't have, not to distance myself from transness or trans people.

[siegeengine]

Cool, thanks! Much appreciate your input, and amen to the "still figuring out" part. Sometimes it seems like a solutionless question.
*hugs*

[moonspark]

In my fantasies, I'm a man. Always. Ever since I was 14 and still thought I was a girl.

[siegeengine]

Wow, that is cool. That really helps me put things in perspective.
*hugs*

[poetictrdgdy]

omg waking life icon, i love it

[ryano32o]

I(f2m pre-everything) too have always put myself in the male role in fantasies since I was teeny tiny. None of my family believe it though. It also causes issues with me in real life sex. I have no desire to be touched sexually in my still female anatomy.. sometimes it even kills my fantasies when I play with myself.

As for the 'transenough' I question that for a completely different reason, so many on here are so comfortable identifying as transgender and I'm not I just want to be male. This is my big dilema at the moment.

[siegeengine]

I understand that. If I ever focus on the "act" itself insofar as what my own body is actually doing, then it also kind of kills the process for me.

Also, yeah, I know what you mean about identifying. It has always seemed to me a little unfair that people who are obviously male should have to continue to identify as ftm, and vice versa. I know it's a big question, though, and I wouldn't presume to have any good insights into it.
*hugs*

[ryano32o]

Well, hugs are always better than good insights. Thanks.