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Feb 03, 2010 20:51

Hello-- I dont think I have posted here at all--but anyway, my name is Jamie--as you can see--and I am ftm. I don't typically state that "I'm ftm" or "Im trans" but considering the context of the situation--here it goes ( Read more... )

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artemis44 February 4 2010, 04:21:34 UTC

First of all, welcome, and congrats on having a family and for being a good dad and worrying about them ( ... )

jamie_patrick February 7 2010, 15:40:54 UTC

Hey --thanks for your comment. A lot of what you had to say really makes sense and put things in perspective for me. I like what you had to say about knowing the "rules" before breaking them... I think I can feel much more comfortable drawing lines between the genders and having that masculine relationship with him from the way you stated it. Also, he does have a couple of other male role models, and is extremely close to his mother...so the whole stepdad thing is going ok so far.

ftmichael February 4 2010, 15:11:10 UTC

Hey Jamie. I highly recommend that you join http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gqtgparenting/ and post there as well as here.

jamie_patrick February 7 2010, 15:43:39 UTC

hey--thanks a lot-- I was actually wondering about a more private type of group online. I'll check that out.

ext_1656582 February 17 2013, 19:10:39 UTC

I am a masculine, genderqueer parent of a 13 y.o. and a 3 y.o., both girls. Our approach to talking about and dealing with gender is to be very open, not censoring or criticizing behaviors or likes/dislikes on the basis of their bio sex. Communication about sex, gender, sexuality, etc., is age appropriate but always clear about our philosophy that there are very few true restrictions based on bio sex. My teenager has already heard me say, more than once, that certain activities can't be just for boys or just for girls unless they require the use of a penis or vagina. She is also well versed on the difference between gender and bio sex. My wife and I value this approach because we don't want to reinforce any unnecessary barriers to their aspirations, identities, etc. That doesn't mean we have an issue with her apparent heterosexuality, cis-gender femaleness or that she likes to wear dresses. She knows we love he for who she is, not for her ability to fit in with the norm, or step outside it ( ... )