Okay, so since I don't think anyone reads this thing anyway, I'm going to use it to whine about/ record all of our latest and greatest arguments
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I still feel like when he's with Ben, he should be with Ben, not her.
This may not work. Not that it doesn't make sense from a Mommy point of view, but if this girl is a part of his life, she may be a part of Ben's life, too. Wanting to meet her is a good thing. However, if this girl ends up being a bigger part of your exes life, then she will end up being a bigger part of Ben's life, too. Trying to keep them from spending time together may not be the best thing.
Just a thought. :) Maybe make sure that if she's around when Ben is, that Ben is getting equal attention, or that he's the focus, and not just an afterthought.
I have many, many reasons for not wanting her to be a part of Ben's life right now. First, they don't even approach stable. They've been dating for like 3 months, and broken up twice in that time. This was how it was when they dated years ago, as well. I want to minimize the number of people in and out of his life. Actually, a lot of this is based on my observations of boy's experience with his own parents.
I'm also very afraid that Ben will see how his father treats women, and think that it's okay.
But yes, Ben being the focus is what I meant. I don't trust him to do that. IDK, I wonder if he's just his using his "awesome father skillz" to impress girl...if that makes sense.
Neverheless, I gave in. I just don't like it. And I wasn't expecting it to be EVERY single time.
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I still feel like when he's with Ben, he should be with Ben, not her.
This may not work. Not that it doesn't make sense from a Mommy point of view, but if this girl is a part of his life, she may be a part of Ben's life, too. Wanting to meet her is a good thing. However, if this girl ends up being a bigger part of your exes life, then she will end up being a bigger part of Ben's life, too. Trying to keep them from spending time together may not be the best thing.
Just a thought. :) Maybe make sure that if she's around when Ben is, that Ben is getting equal attention, or that he's the focus, and not just an afterthought.
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I'm also very afraid that Ben will see how his father treats women, and think that it's okay.
But yes, Ben being the focus is what I meant. I don't trust him to do that. IDK, I wonder if he's just his using his "awesome father skillz" to impress girl...if that makes sense.
Neverheless, I gave in. I just don't like it. And I wasn't expecting it to be EVERY single time.
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