First married xmas!
So, our first xmas together as a married couple, or even together since last year was spent with respective families who didn't even know we were engaged. I've come a long way in a year.
The night before Christmas Eve was mostly spent wailing in an undignified and emo manner into several pillows as tiredness, unemployment, and emo got the better of me, triggered by the disastrous trip into Debenhams followed by discovering that the wedding speech video wasn't the only video footage of our wedding. Since the only prima-donna demand I made over my wedding was NO VIDEO and that I was very vocal about my hatred of video cameras, my opposition to their usage at my wedding and the inevitability that someday I'd have to see the damned footage (which is akin to being boiled alive whilst listening to Black Eyed Peas on the torture scale), when asked about it by anyone, especially parents and other relatives, you'd maybe think that anyone asking Joe's mum "Hey, can I film this wedding?" would be told, quite simply, "no, cos if you do, Kyly will cut your genitals off".
You'd think that, wouldn't you?
I was very unamused, then, to find that Joe's cousin Graeme was filming the speeches, and protested the presence of a video camera - it was the first time I'd seen it. I objected but was told 'it's only for the speeches'. When we watched the speeches video, there was footage of the Cathedral Ruins, but I let that slide. But when I got home that night, already in a foul mood, after a week of being fucked over by all and sundry, and was invited to start watching this video - which I REALLY didn't want to do but was trying to be reasonable for a bloody change - and found that there was a hell of a lot more footage than I thought, including inside the crypt, and that Graeme had basically been filming the whole time without my noticing....
....I got more than a little upset.
In short, I felt like the ONE demand I'd made, unequivocally, without any exception, had basically been ignored. Thus I am having nothing more to do with this film. I did say 'no video' and I meant it. I still do. I want no truck with this.
Furthermore, no more Mr Nice Kyly. I'm fed up of being fucked over by all and sundry at their will. Thus, if something pisses me off, I'm going to say so. And I hope people will reward my honesty with some of their own. Because it's evident everyone thinks I'm a fucking idiot, and I can see that, so I'd like people to tell me what I am doing wrong, so I can learn from that and not be a fucking idiot anymore. Is that too much to ask? Well, it seems everything I ask of anyone who isn't my husband this week just gone is too fucking much. But that's just tough.
Anyway. I had to calm down eventually that night because we had an unexpected visit from Emily and Fraser. I'd only met Fraser once and I'm not going to be a rude and sullen hostess no matter HOW upset I am - it had nothing to do with them, after all.
They went, we ordered Chinese food, then my Gran rang and went 'DOOOOOOOOOOM WILL COME TO YOU' at me in a more protracted and irritating way. I noisily chomped on a chicken ball until she got the hint and fucked off.
I can't rightly remember what we did on Christmas Eve. Not a great deal, though. We went out to the shops at some point...and spent lots in Woolworths because I kept spotting cool stocking fillers for Joe. I laughed like a drain at this Lord Of The Rings figure called 'Bilbo Transfixed', which is meant to be Bilbo getting all evil and 'MY PRECIOUSSSSSSS' over the One Ring, but makes him look like a pained zombie instead. I think I may have my time sequencing wrong, actually....this happened on Friday. I don't remember Saturday at ALL. Did we go to Morrison's?
We went to bed at near 11ish and spent ages shagging, THEN realised when we'd finished that it was past midnight and thus was Christmas already. So Joe gave me a present and I gave him a present, both stocking fillers. Mine was that Bilbo transfixed figure. Joe's was this stretchy triceratops figure. We played with our toys for ages before sleeping at gone 1am.
I woke up early yesterday morning, all excited over it being Christmas and wanting to give Joe his pressies. Joe wasn't impressed by this cos it meant that he had to wake up. So at 7am he cracked and said 'okay, let's open our stockings already!'
Mine included the irritating noisy axe, 2 Clive Barker books (Gallilee and The First Book Of The Art, which is prequel to Everville), a cute ceramic figure of a monk, a box of seashell chocs, and, er, that's it, I think. Joe liked his stocking, which was full of cool shit like glowsticks and red hair paint, and, er, Top Trumps. We went back to sleep for a couple hours before I dragged Joe out of bed again to open our other pressies. We got some pretty cool stuff, as follows:
A hoover, a framed picture of Lady Godiva looking hawt, a dragon ashtray, champagne, novelty socks, chocolate, and errrrr that's it, I think.
I got a 'magic sheep' from Emily, and from Joe, Most Haunted Live 1-3 in a box set (W00T!!!!!! Derek Acorah love!!!), and an Angel Sanctuary art book by my favourite manga artist, Kaori Yuki. I have one of his/her pictures (the one in my icon) tattooed on my back, though I'm planning to have it redone cos it's not an especially good rendering of my beautiful angel in chains.
The rest of the day was spent making and eating a leek and potato soup which was bloody fantastic, then watching telly and making our dinner, which was absolutely lovely. Joe did the veg and I did the rest. We were stuffed afterwards and so we ate pudding and drank champers on the sofa whilst watching the best Most Haunted Live episode. Then we went to bed.
Today we mostly slept off last night's foodfest before deciding to escape the house and go to Curry's to see if I could get a cheap mp3 player, which I did, and I'm currently compiling the playlisting. So hooray for that!
And now for something I stole from watashi_no_desu - it's an LJ meme!
01. Your Livejournal username & what it means:
Trentgurl, my name throughout all my dabblings on the internet and yes, I am thinking of changing it.
02. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how well does your Livejournal represent who you actually are?
9 - most people who read this know a lot more about me than others.
03. How much about your life do you post to LJ?
Everything I can remember.
04. Is there anything you refuse to post about?
I try not to be nasty about others if they're going to read it, but the rest of the time it's just...too much information, really.
05. On a scale of 1-10, how interesting do you think your own journal is to others?
4, since it's mostly about me, after all. I'm not that interesting and way too self-obsessed.
06. From whom/how did you find out about LJ?
Oh, I'd known of its existence for a while and joined the general exodus from diaryland.
07. Has anyone ever joined LJ because of you?
I doubt it. One or two may have left because of me though.
08. What proportion of your posts are Friends Only?
Less than one percent are custom-filtered but my life is an open webpage, really.
09. What is your favorite interest on LJ?
I don't really know - 'Reading some more' surprised me by having more than one person into it.
10. Has anything on LJ ever caused you to establish, rethink, or even change your belief or position on something?
I constantly reevaluate my opinions and LJ is one of those media which helps me to do that as a discussion forum. I often think about things 'out loud', i.e. writing what I'm thinking, even as I'm working it out.
11. How often do you respond/comment on other peoples journals?
TOO often, apparently.
12. Do you prefer to write in your journal, read other journals?
I enjoy both.
13. Have you ever had something mean said to you or been stalked, harassed, or got into an argument/flame war on LJ?
I've had arguments, which weren't nice. When things spill over into real life, it's even worse. Especially when someone's nasty to you on LJ or about LJ...it feels very personal to me.
14. Have you ever banned someone from your journal?
Nope.
15. Who are your favorite LJ friend(s) and why?
The ones who I talk to on a regular basis, and who are consistently interesting to read about.
16. How many of your LJ friends have you actually met?
23 out of 73. Some I'm going to defriend soon anyway, and others I'm not counting as they are alter egos of people I have met.
17. Of all of the people on LJ you know of, who is the most like you?
That's a really weird question and there are so many that count in different ways. I don't think I'm going to answer that, cos I don't know how to.
18. Why are you most likely to add someone to your friends list?
I've seen them around, most likely on other peoples' journals, and I think they're cool - this is generally strengthened by reading their profile and going 'OMG they like such-and-such, they MUST be cool!'. It seems that this approach is a little TOO friendly though. But never mind.
19. Do you automatically add friends to your journal if they add you first?
If I have no clue who they are, then I'll check their journal out first and do it accordingly. Otherwise, it's generally a cert that I will add someone.
20. What is the most likely reason you wouldn't add someone to your friends list?
If they're a spam robot, or they seem repulsive or they seem really boring or immature.
21. Is your significant other on LJ?
It was mainly via LJ that our relationship blossomed. LJ takes up too much of my life sometimes.
22. Have you ever wanted to meet someone on LJ?
Well, yeah, I want to meet ALL my friends. Roll on 25th Feb! Talking of which, Little Girl Screaming (the band who played our reception) are playing in Camden the day of the bit LJ meet in London, and so we might go down on the coach with them and hit the meet-up that afternoon then go to the gig in the evening. Anyone else up for that? Hey, Coventrarians! Come to London, meet LJ friends and support Little Girl Screaming, all on one day! Who's for it?
The night before Christmas Eve was mostly spent wailing in an undignified and emo manner into several pillows as tiredness, unemployment, and emo got the better of me, triggered by the disastrous trip into Debenhams followed by discovering that the wedding speech video wasn't the only video footage of our wedding. Since the only prima-donna demand I made over my wedding was NO VIDEO and that I was very vocal about my hatred of video cameras, my opposition to their usage at my wedding and the inevitability that someday I'd have to see the damned footage (which is akin to being boiled alive whilst listening to Black Eyed Peas on the torture scale), when asked about it by anyone, especially parents and other relatives, you'd maybe think that anyone asking Joe's mum "Hey, can I film this wedding?" would be told, quite simply, "no, cos if you do, Kyly will cut your genitals off".
You'd think that, wouldn't you?
I was very unamused, then, to find that Joe's cousin Graeme was filming the speeches, and protested the presence of a video camera - it was the first time I'd seen it. I objected but was told 'it's only for the speeches'. When we watched the speeches video, there was footage of the Cathedral Ruins, but I let that slide. But when I got home that night, already in a foul mood, after a week of being fucked over by all and sundry, and was invited to start watching this video - which I REALLY didn't want to do but was trying to be reasonable for a bloody change - and found that there was a hell of a lot more footage than I thought, including inside the crypt, and that Graeme had basically been filming the whole time without my noticing....
....I got more than a little upset.
In short, I felt like the ONE demand I'd made, unequivocally, without any exception, had basically been ignored. Thus I am having nothing more to do with this film. I did say 'no video' and I meant it. I still do. I want no truck with this.
Furthermore, no more Mr Nice Kyly. I'm fed up of being fucked over by all and sundry at their will. Thus, if something pisses me off, I'm going to say so. And I hope people will reward my honesty with some of their own. Because it's evident everyone thinks I'm a fucking idiot, and I can see that, so I'd like people to tell me what I am doing wrong, so I can learn from that and not be a fucking idiot anymore. Is that too much to ask? Well, it seems everything I ask of anyone who isn't my husband this week just gone is too fucking much. But that's just tough.
Anyway. I had to calm down eventually that night because we had an unexpected visit from Emily and Fraser. I'd only met Fraser once and I'm not going to be a rude and sullen hostess no matter HOW upset I am - it had nothing to do with them, after all.
They went, we ordered Chinese food, then my Gran rang and went 'DOOOOOOOOOOM WILL COME TO YOU' at me in a more protracted and irritating way. I noisily chomped on a chicken ball until she got the hint and fucked off.
I can't rightly remember what we did on Christmas Eve. Not a great deal, though. We went out to the shops at some point...and spent lots in Woolworths because I kept spotting cool stocking fillers for Joe. I laughed like a drain at this Lord Of The Rings figure called 'Bilbo Transfixed', which is meant to be Bilbo getting all evil and 'MY PRECIOUSSSSSSS' over the One Ring, but makes him look like a pained zombie instead. I think I may have my time sequencing wrong, actually....this happened on Friday. I don't remember Saturday at ALL. Did we go to Morrison's?
We went to bed at near 11ish and spent ages shagging, THEN realised when we'd finished that it was past midnight and thus was Christmas already. So Joe gave me a present and I gave him a present, both stocking fillers. Mine was that Bilbo transfixed figure. Joe's was this stretchy triceratops figure. We played with our toys for ages before sleeping at gone 1am.
I woke up early yesterday morning, all excited over it being Christmas and wanting to give Joe his pressies. Joe wasn't impressed by this cos it meant that he had to wake up. So at 7am he cracked and said 'okay, let's open our stockings already!'
Mine included the irritating noisy axe, 2 Clive Barker books (Gallilee and The First Book Of The Art, which is prequel to Everville), a cute ceramic figure of a monk, a box of seashell chocs, and, er, that's it, I think. Joe liked his stocking, which was full of cool shit like glowsticks and red hair paint, and, er, Top Trumps. We went back to sleep for a couple hours before I dragged Joe out of bed again to open our other pressies. We got some pretty cool stuff, as follows:
A hoover, a framed picture of Lady Godiva looking hawt, a dragon ashtray, champagne, novelty socks, chocolate, and errrrr that's it, I think.
I got a 'magic sheep' from Emily, and from Joe, Most Haunted Live 1-3 in a box set (W00T!!!!!! Derek Acorah love!!!), and an Angel Sanctuary art book by my favourite manga artist, Kaori Yuki. I have one of his/her pictures (the one in my icon) tattooed on my back, though I'm planning to have it redone cos it's not an especially good rendering of my beautiful angel in chains.
The rest of the day was spent making and eating a leek and potato soup which was bloody fantastic, then watching telly and making our dinner, which was absolutely lovely. Joe did the veg and I did the rest. We were stuffed afterwards and so we ate pudding and drank champers on the sofa whilst watching the best Most Haunted Live episode. Then we went to bed.
Today we mostly slept off last night's foodfest before deciding to escape the house and go to Curry's to see if I could get a cheap mp3 player, which I did, and I'm currently compiling the playlisting. So hooray for that!
And now for something I stole from watashi_no_desu - it's an LJ meme!
01. Your Livejournal username & what it means:
Trentgurl, my name throughout all my dabblings on the internet and yes, I am thinking of changing it.
02. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how well does your Livejournal represent who you actually are?
9 - most people who read this know a lot more about me than others.
03. How much about your life do you post to LJ?
Everything I can remember.
04. Is there anything you refuse to post about?
I try not to be nasty about others if they're going to read it, but the rest of the time it's just...too much information, really.
05. On a scale of 1-10, how interesting do you think your own journal is to others?
4, since it's mostly about me, after all. I'm not that interesting and way too self-obsessed.
06. From whom/how did you find out about LJ?
Oh, I'd known of its existence for a while and joined the general exodus from diaryland.
07. Has anyone ever joined LJ because of you?
I doubt it. One or two may have left because of me though.
08. What proportion of your posts are Friends Only?
Less than one percent are custom-filtered but my life is an open webpage, really.
09. What is your favorite interest on LJ?
I don't really know - 'Reading some more' surprised me by having more than one person into it.
10. Has anything on LJ ever caused you to establish, rethink, or even change your belief or position on something?
I constantly reevaluate my opinions and LJ is one of those media which helps me to do that as a discussion forum. I often think about things 'out loud', i.e. writing what I'm thinking, even as I'm working it out.
11. How often do you respond/comment on other peoples journals?
TOO often, apparently.
12. Do you prefer to write in your journal, read other journals?
I enjoy both.
13. Have you ever had something mean said to you or been stalked, harassed, or got into an argument/flame war on LJ?
I've had arguments, which weren't nice. When things spill over into real life, it's even worse. Especially when someone's nasty to you on LJ or about LJ...it feels very personal to me.
14. Have you ever banned someone from your journal?
Nope.
15. Who are your favorite LJ friend(s) and why?
The ones who I talk to on a regular basis, and who are consistently interesting to read about.
16. How many of your LJ friends have you actually met?
23 out of 73. Some I'm going to defriend soon anyway, and others I'm not counting as they are alter egos of people I have met.
17. Of all of the people on LJ you know of, who is the most like you?
That's a really weird question and there are so many that count in different ways. I don't think I'm going to answer that, cos I don't know how to.
18. Why are you most likely to add someone to your friends list?
I've seen them around, most likely on other peoples' journals, and I think they're cool - this is generally strengthened by reading their profile and going 'OMG they like such-and-such, they MUST be cool!'. It seems that this approach is a little TOO friendly though. But never mind.
19. Do you automatically add friends to your journal if they add you first?
If I have no clue who they are, then I'll check their journal out first and do it accordingly. Otherwise, it's generally a cert that I will add someone.
20. What is the most likely reason you wouldn't add someone to your friends list?
If they're a spam robot, or they seem repulsive or they seem really boring or immature.
21. Is your significant other on LJ?
It was mainly via LJ that our relationship blossomed. LJ takes up too much of my life sometimes.
22. Have you ever wanted to meet someone on LJ?
Well, yeah, I want to meet ALL my friends. Roll on 25th Feb! Talking of which, Little Girl Screaming (the band who played our reception) are playing in Camden the day of the bit LJ meet in London, and so we might go down on the coach with them and hit the meet-up that afternoon then go to the gig in the evening. Anyone else up for that? Hey, Coventrarians! Come to London, meet LJ friends and support Little Girl Screaming, all on one day! Who's for it?