what I've noticed about Father's Day

[truyuanfen]

Judging by the various Father's Day status updates on Facebook, it seems that, unlike Mother's Day which arrives yearly with much doting and saccharine, Father's Day stumbles in quietly, and though recognized, is often met with an air of contempt. Many "Happy Father's Day" messages are often followed by "to the real fathers out there" or "to the

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[purejuice]

fascinating. i hope you will keep keeping string on this, as part of the manhood project we're all working on.

my central experience on this was reading the autobiography of ben bradlee, the great editor. it's called A Good Life, and he writes about sitting on his father's lap, his ear to his father's chest, listening to his father's heart beat.

an icicle of envy and dismay went through my stomach such as i had never felt before or since. while my father was present and there for me in many ways -- i have thought about him every day since his death 20 years ago, and our relationship continues to change and grow -- he was definitely not a warm and fuzzy guy.

and that's the way i was trained to be too. sort of.

[kibbles]

I couldn't put my finger on what was up, but yes, that's right.