Comments | turnez: the art of zen stressing out

turnez

the art of zen stressing out

Nov 20, 2007 00:43

So life is going pretty well. I'm trying very hard not to be stressed about money and to know it will all work out in the end. Which it always does. Needless to say there may be a good deal of "artistic New York City" original photography under the tree this year (except for Heidi, I already have her gift, tee hee hee! I'm so excited to go home ( Read more... )

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koopy21 November 20 2007, 18:32:02 UTC

So what do you need ideas about? I'm not sure I understand it. Parent/child identity? I could possibly help! And I'm sorry I missed your call! My schedule has been hard because I've been working just about every single dinner shift. So my free time is wonky. But I'll give you a call here soon. And let me know how I can help!

turnez November 20 2007, 18:59:38 UTC

Hi friend! Basically the idea is this. I'm writing a documentary play on Identity, and how that changes when a child loses a parent, or a parent gets sick. Basically how does one's identity change when you have to become the adult in the relationship. But I've opened up the field to not only include parents, but any loved one that was/is close to you in life and how it changes part of how you see the world. I'm even interviewing people who have perfectly healthy families to find out what their worries and apprihensions are, or if they've never thought about it, why? So what I'm asking people to do is email me (sarahturnquist@email.com) any and all responses they have to this very broad topic. I don't want the focus to be too narrow as to exclude anyone, but the more information and feelings you can provide the better. Basically, I want to write a piece that looks at the universal through personal testimony, and so everyone who sends me work will remain anonymous in the play. Both for the previous reason and I'm hoping it will ( ... )

everest_climber November 20 2007, 19:24:09 UTC

I miss you too!!! Thank you so much for the kind words, that means a lot to me.
Did you get my e-mail perchance?

turnez November 20 2007, 21:19:13 UTC

I did get your email. Thank you so much, it was so touching and heartfelt, I really appreciated the beauty of your words while at the same time it was hard to read. As is anything anyone is sending me on this subject. I hope everything is going awesome for you and I'll send you a more detailed email soon if I have any questions or clarifications. Thank you so much! I love you Gobbles and Bunches! (Thanks new turkey day slang I'm trying out;)

blaze2242 November 20 2007, 22:16:51 UTC

Since I have never had anyone close to me die, I didn't respond to your earlier plea. But I can talk about parent/child identity. I am talking about the shift in my relationship with my Mother when she went from being this older woman who told me what to do to becoming a woman who is my friend and has some damn good advice, and it occured during my freshman year of college. I was staying at my boyfriends house ( a big no no) she knew I was drinking and stuff, but rather then rein me in, or demand information about my life, or impose rules, or express HER opinion on things, she let me make my own decisions, and didn't press for info. In turn, I ended up coming to her for advice when I wanted it, since I didn't have to deal with all sorts of unwanted advice. Likewise, when I told her something, she witheld judegement, didn't tell me what to do, just expressed her feelings, and let me make my own decision. Growing up, I could always tlak to my dad more then my mom. He was more likely to discuss things with me, and let me make mistakes ( ... )

turnez November 20 2007, 23:48:33 UTC

Actually Ruth that's great! The first part of my play is about the relationship between child/parent and how that changes as we grow up so your story fits perfectly! I'd love to hear the anecdote if you have the time! The second part of my play involves the fear of death/sickness, even if it's not present in our lives yet. The third part is that death/sickness actuating and the final part is where do we go from there with the new information we have. So I love getting info from people who haven't dealt with this terrible thing yet, because I think it's important to look at the relationship from all sides, not just the critical mass it reaches when we're faced with a crisis. So anything else you want to add...the more the better! And you'll get to be in a play! Once it's finished I'm going to post it online so everyone who contributed can read it and then hopefully I'll find some way to get it performed, even if it's in an abandoned lot, in NYC. So thanks again! BTW, how is your life going? Are you still in school? Going to ( ... )