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[xmylittledecoy]

I've come here because basically I need advice and I don't have a clue what to do. Okay, how it starts is one of my best friends about last month told me she's been cutting herself. I felt really guilty I hadn't realised but she was telling me it's not your fault and all. She's had a lot of family problems and basically her family is breaking down

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[chndelierskies]

Oh, I'm so sorry. That's a really tough situation. As hard as it is, I think all you can do is be there for her in every way possible. I've been in the exact same situation as you, and I've found that just being there helps. It's good that she felt like she could tell you-that's a huge step. I'm also a person who hides what theu feel so I can definately say that that means she fully trusts you. That probably also means that she trusts you so much that she almost relies on you a little bit at this really tough time. Don't try to force things out of her, but subtlely let her know that you are there when she needs to break down and finally talk. Obviously don't say anything in favor of the cutting, but definately don't say anything to trigger her- you're right, she's incredibly fragile. We all know that love is the best response to this. If she doesn't know already, definately try to mention TWLOHA to her. It honestly could really really cure her. Just be there for her, care for her, and love her entirely. It's these times when it's so

[neverdoubtedyou]

Its so positive for her that she can trust someone like you, whos clearly trying to do the best they can and is seeking help from a counselor.
Like the person above me said definetly mention TWLOHA it'll give her a community to support her. Obviously you're there to support her, but it'll be easier for her to recover if she knows other success/survival stories.
Maybe since her family life is hard, if its possible (I don't know you're situation) to tell her your house is a safe place even if she doesnt feel like talking but just to be and be cared for.
If she remains very fragile, a hospital might be agood idea. I know being sent to the hospital has helped me. It sounds sort of evil and institutional, but theres so much love there and people take care of you, and shed be around people who can relate to her.
sorry for the numerous typos
LOVE

[xmylittledecoy]

Thanks to both of you. I'm definitely mentioning TWLOHA to her on Monday.

[monica_riot]

it's really simple, just treat her with tons of love and make her forget all about the bad things that are going on in her life. it sounds totally cheesy, but that's what jamie did for renee and it worked.

[sureaintnormal]

well im glad that you want to be there for her
talking about it is such a great start. i wish i had had someone willing to help me like this when i went through my really hard times. i never cut myself but i had a really bad addiction and attempted suicide twice. i was also like her in that i was good at hiding my feelings. if she is like me, than she may just want to pretend that everything is okay. and it may sound like a good idea to try and forget about how much you are hurting inside, but it just keeps the feelings bottled up and then causes you to explode. its good that she is talking to someone, but it must not be working. make sure to show her love. and if she ever tells you she is okay, but you can tell she's not- sit her down and make her talk. chances are you will be right.
if you can make any sense of the stuff i said, then im glad to help you.

[xmylittledecoy]

Thanks to both of you. I feel a lot better.