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Since that link I posted yesterday apparently wanted people to register, I decided to just copy and paste the article .
Don't settle for a mediocre, no excitement relationship
I was strolling the aisles of my favorite granola-crunchy health food store, stocking up on expensive pills that are supposed to make me healthier.
One of the vitamin experts asked if I was married and when I said no, an eavesdropping woman in her 60s matter-of-factly said: "That's OK, honey. Someone else is dating your man right now, but when he's ready for you, he'll leave her and find you. You'll know him when you meet him."
She then resumed picking out her vast assortment of memory-enhancing and mood-altering vitamins.
I can't vouch for the Vitamin Kook's sanity after her outburst, but she might have had a point. Maybe someone else is dating my man. Perhaps he's in a complacent relationship where so many people unhappily bide their time. Maybe he doesn't even know he's not happy.
Complacent relationships are pure evil. To be in a relationship, not because it's wonderful, but because it's available, cheats four people. There are the two people who are wasting time together, and two unidentified others who would be their better matches.
Complacent relationships can tide us over and temporarily quell our loneliness. I suppose it's possible to remain in them for a while if there are no major problems. But if there's no excitement, why do so many people settle for mediocrity?
Many people are in a frantic search to find Miss/Mr. Right. Sometimes they run into people who, while they aren't Miss/Mr.
Right or even a close relative, might be Miss/Mr. Good Enough. These fill-ins are probably nice enough.
Perhaps in these lukewarm affairs there are no arguments and no insurmountable problems. But at the same time, these relationships create no strong feelings and no sparks.
Those who have decided to remain in complacent relationships might look down on loving relationships, claiming that the spark and chemistry is merely lust, and that "real love" isn't always as exciting.
Whatever. Give me excitement any day.
They might seem easy, but complacent relationships are difficult. They're tough not because they're highly dramatic or particularly emotional. In fact, it's quite the opposite. They creep along uneventfully.
If neither of the pair rocks the boat, this tepid relationship could last for years with both parties avoiding direct questions about future plans or becoming more serious.
If we're on quests to escape mediocre relationships, there are forces that attempt to derail us from our missions. As we get older and remain single, we're often accused of being "too picky." Singles can be made to feel as if we should be happy with whatever we get-as opposed to pursuing what might make us happy.
After the constant suggestion that being discerning can preclude happiness, no wonder people are settling for bland relationships. It seems that finding Mr. or Miss Right takes the courage to be alone until he or she comes along.
While I'm a card-carrying single girl who vehemently values her freedom, I'm probably going to have to settle down sometime. And because I don't equate settling down with settling, the relationship that gets me there will have to be a great one.
Again...I have been saying this for years! Amen!
Don't settle for a mediocre, no excitement relationship
I was strolling the aisles of my favorite granola-crunchy health food store, stocking up on expensive pills that are supposed to make me healthier.
One of the vitamin experts asked if I was married and when I said no, an eavesdropping woman in her 60s matter-of-factly said: "That's OK, honey. Someone else is dating your man right now, but when he's ready for you, he'll leave her and find you. You'll know him when you meet him."
She then resumed picking out her vast assortment of memory-enhancing and mood-altering vitamins.
I can't vouch for the Vitamin Kook's sanity after her outburst, but she might have had a point. Maybe someone else is dating my man. Perhaps he's in a complacent relationship where so many people unhappily bide their time. Maybe he doesn't even know he's not happy.
Complacent relationships are pure evil. To be in a relationship, not because it's wonderful, but because it's available, cheats four people. There are the two people who are wasting time together, and two unidentified others who would be their better matches.
Complacent relationships can tide us over and temporarily quell our loneliness. I suppose it's possible to remain in them for a while if there are no major problems. But if there's no excitement, why do so many people settle for mediocrity?
Many people are in a frantic search to find Miss/Mr. Right. Sometimes they run into people who, while they aren't Miss/Mr.
Right or even a close relative, might be Miss/Mr. Good Enough. These fill-ins are probably nice enough.
Perhaps in these lukewarm affairs there are no arguments and no insurmountable problems. But at the same time, these relationships create no strong feelings and no sparks.
Those who have decided to remain in complacent relationships might look down on loving relationships, claiming that the spark and chemistry is merely lust, and that "real love" isn't always as exciting.
Whatever. Give me excitement any day.
They might seem easy, but complacent relationships are difficult. They're tough not because they're highly dramatic or particularly emotional. In fact, it's quite the opposite. They creep along uneventfully.
If neither of the pair rocks the boat, this tepid relationship could last for years with both parties avoiding direct questions about future plans or becoming more serious.
If we're on quests to escape mediocre relationships, there are forces that attempt to derail us from our missions. As we get older and remain single, we're often accused of being "too picky." Singles can be made to feel as if we should be happy with whatever we get-as opposed to pursuing what might make us happy.
After the constant suggestion that being discerning can preclude happiness, no wonder people are settling for bland relationships. It seems that finding Mr. or Miss Right takes the courage to be alone until he or she comes along.
While I'm a card-carrying single girl who vehemently values her freedom, I'm probably going to have to settle down sometime. And because I don't equate settling down with settling, the relationship that gets me there will have to be a great one.
Again...I have been saying this for years! Amen!