*smiles* I maintain that the 'pay cash or do without' approach works for dating after a certain point. More economical, less time spent on the knees begging, unless you're willing to pay extra? And the variety is wider.
not quite sure I understand what your meaning is here Peter... Are you saying prostitutes are a better investment - cheaper and you understand the nature of the relationship immediatly? You can drive down the street and "pick" the flavor you want kind of like a buffet?
And I'll let you know how it works, soon as it becomes important enough to save the money up to not 'do without'.
Me. I'm practical minded and understand myself well enough to know what is and isn't important enough to bother with.
I guess, the only real point I have here is this. How you rate the importance of such matters? This from the other fellow who's pushing the 40 mark himself this year. ^_^
I don't have the life experience you do, so take my advice with a grain of well aged salt.
I have made a very long practice of throwing myself in with reckless abandon, and you've seen what the outcome is. However, I would rather get hurt than have my lack of action end up on that long list of regrets. I've seen bad, hurtful, neglectful, and just plain cruel, but I've come through to the other side with less baggage than I started with.
Please don't get me wrong, a game plan is important. Knowing who you are and what you want is important. But at some point planning has to become action, or you will spend your entire life pouring over maps of the paths you want to walk and never set foot upon them.
My advice is utterly cliche, but still true: be yourself. Don't mold yourself into what you think some woman is looking for. Don't hide aspects of yourself to attract one. Be you. You are a handsome, charming, funny guy, and there will be someone for you. I have absolutely no doubt.
I have followed both paths with varied success at different times in my life. I guess I would say be cautiously bold, which sounds like a contradiction, but is the best I can come up with. Don't be reckless, but don't be timid. Be open, confident, and considerate of the feelings of all involved.
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Are you saying prostitutes are a better investment - cheaper and you understand the nature of the relationship immediatly?
You can drive down the street and "pick" the flavor you want kind of like a buffet?
How does that work for you?
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And I'll let you know how it works, soon as it becomes important enough to save the money up to not 'do without'.
Me. I'm practical minded and understand myself well enough to know what is and isn't important enough to bother with.
I guess, the only real point I have here is this. How you rate the importance of such matters? This from the other fellow who's pushing the 40 mark himself this year. ^_^
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I have made a very long practice of throwing myself in with reckless abandon, and you've seen what the outcome is. However, I would rather get hurt than have my lack of action end up on that long list of regrets. I've seen bad, hurtful, neglectful, and just plain cruel, but I've come through to the other side with less baggage than I started with.
Please don't get me wrong, a game plan is important. Knowing who you are and what you want is important. But at some point planning has to become action, or you will spend your entire life pouring over maps of the paths you want to walk and never set foot upon them.
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I have followed both paths with varied success at different times in my life. I guess I would say be cautiously bold, which sounds like a contradiction, but is the best I can come up with. Don't be reckless, but don't be timid. Be open, confident, and considerate of the feelings of all involved.
Best of luck, hon.
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