Seriously, is it me?

[uber_tinker]

Help me out here people. Help me understand what vibe I'm putting out that makes so many of the completely socially inept people on this campus flock to my side. And no, Claire, it's not my level of social ineptness. Let me put it in perspective. As anti-social as I may tend to be, the levels of social ineptness belonging to these people makes

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[andrew_mclaren]

From one completely socially inept person to another whose not quite that bad: I have no idea what you're doing but you could try sending them an email or IM saying "Give Me Some Space!!" or something like that. That is if you can't bring yourself to say it to their faces. Just because you're friends doesn't give them a right to nag the heck outta you; let them know that. I'm sure that if they're really friends they won't want to upset you.

[uber_tinker]

Friends? No no, I think I perhaps wasn't clear on that. I do not want to talk to these people. I do not want these people leaning into my space. One of these people was in my Comp Sci class last semester. Caitlin and Jessica can confirm this, too, but he would stare at us. It was totally creepy. Of course, we would also rush from class so he wouldn't have a chance to come over and try to talk. *shudder*

The newest guy chose to sit next to me during the anime marathon. Everytime we would all start joking about "hey, if that's not working let's do this! hahaha!" he would get totally serious and start leaning over to try explaining to me how he had stuff we could use for our (joke) alternate plan of action. I mean, how do you send the vibe "I DON'T FREAKING CARE!" in a way that's effective? *shakes head* There were some points where I almost yelled in his face, but you know, can't do thatI'm just curious to know why all these inept people see me and think that I must really want to be their bestest friend and have long,

[uber_tinker]

Sting, eh? Arigatou.

If that "laugh it off" would work without having to actually move, I'd try it. Keep in mind, the latest incident, as I mentioned above, happened at the Anime marathon. Not only are we all there to just try and enjoy some anime, but we're there to have fun. It's very ackward for me to shush the one guy on the "reasoning" that the episode is starting if I'm going to want to talk/joke to people in the rows in front of me while it's playing.

a)tell me about it
b)being "too nice" is the whole problem. trust me, if I weren't, I'd tell them straight right away. The second flaw with this problem is that these people are so socially inept that they don't even get the not-so-subtle hints. How "not-so-subtle" you ask? Try ME IGNORING THEM and pretending to be really interested in something NOT THEM. Simple enough hint, ne? No, where everyone else would take the clue, they take nothing except a file to my nerves.

Urgh.

[the_musicmkr]

Hmmm... I have this problem sometimes too, though perhaps I'm one of the ones that's socially inept. Assuming not, I'd say that people flock to you cause 1) You tend to be a good listener, 2) You might be miraculously good a being in the right place at the right time to come across them, and 3) Perhaps, since those people have no manners, they figure you have nothing better to do and would love nothing more than to listen to them whine all day. It happens to me too; I think it's a curse of being at a nerdy school. 'neways, I suggest carrying little pieces of candy, and whenever they start bothering you, throw one across the room so they chase after it. That should give you plenty of time to clear the area or slip into the costume you conveniently have at hand. Hope that helps!

~Cory

P.S. I got the link from your website cause I was bored and was trolling AIM profiles :-p