Spring Clean

[ubiquirk]

After over two years on lj, it was time for a spring clean of the flist.  Fandom interests have diverged and, in many cases, diverged for some time.  You can say, rightfully so, that a lot of that is me.  It's not that my interests have changed, per se, as much as my true interests have fully emerged.  I absolutely love science fiction.  It will

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[alisanne]

*nods*
I understand.

And WORD to the "friending/unfriending" nomenclature. That never made sense to me.

I wish you all the best as well. :)

[ubiquirk]

Good - 'cause it really was just, "We don't interact anymore." You are still awesome with the hot fluffy boy sex!

I really dislike the use of that word for this.

Thanks!

[shiv5468]

Meeps.

[laiksmarei]

And why are you meeping?

[shiv5468]

I like the pouty shape my lips make when I do it

[ubiquirk]

(laughs)

[xlivvielockex]

You are so right about it being so so emotionally charged. That is why I have yet to do any sort of cut, even though I need to. I just feel so bad about it and way too many people have my email and AIM to come at me.

But you have to do what you have to do. (Can I add though that I am totally glad I made the cleaning. LOL)

[ubiquirk]

It's hard, but there were people who'd never commented on my lj a single time. That's fine for them - being friended means something else than I want it to mean for me. [I actually hope it was not shocking or upsetting for most since there was no interaction.]

[kribu]

I've occasionally thought about doing a spring clean of my own, but I'm still more or less managing to keep up with my f-list, unless I've been away for several days (and then it wouldn't matter much).

I suspect if/once I do, I'll settle for cutting down on communities watched, for now. It's very hard to "defriend" people - LJ's terminology definitely makes it even more awkward, yes.

[ubiquirk]

I did cut communities first. I had about 100, and I'm now down to in the 30s! That only helped to an extent (I read comms and personal ljs on different browser tabs anyway).

I now really see why the use of the term friend is so bad.

[ozma914]

I've never done a flist thinning ... it's the "friends" designation that gets me. Even though there are many people I don't hear from often, and that I don't have that much in common with anymore, I just can't get over the feeling that I'm wounding them somehow by de-"friending" them. You're absolutely right, LJ should have used a different term.

[ubiquirk]

I hope it didn't hurt too many people. If we never interact, what did they have invested in our non-existent 'relationship'? [But that's me being logical instead of actually dealing with the messy reality of human emotions.] Still, these are people who've never said a thing in my lj or haven't for about a year, and who I don't comment on anymore.

[ozma914]

I'm not too good at being logical -- much as I loved Spock as a kid, I'm more the McCoy type!