oh btw i'm fully prepared for how any of you might yell or bitch at me. maybe i shouldn't have said names or whatever. but you still can't defend bad behavior.
** who you are. im guessing that meant to say it doesnt consume who i am, it doesnt make up a part of me.. tyes, my actions and behaviors are my own. i do choose to behave certain ways, im not saying these are always right or always wrong. i do however choose my actions wisely around different ppl, everyone does it. i choose what i want ppl to know or not know. we are all "teens" & we learn through rights and wrongs.
i still think you should drop the names, you wouldnt want qoute un qoute what you think would be "embarasssing" moments or actions or words you have said shouted out to the world.
thank you lisa!!! im so glad you said something. im always too afraid. and im ashamed of that.
but i am so disappointed in everyone who drinks, smokes, whatever. because i was friends with that group because i thought it was cool that they were Christian and always said its bad to smoke. and now they all do. its just really disappointing.
and it sucks because telling their parents probably wont do anything anyways. because it has to be their decision. not their parents telling them not to. they would still probably keep doing what they are doing and go behind their parents' backs anyways.:\
okay yeah i'm not going to lie, i've drank. i mean i do drink. sometimes. but i know when not to. and i know when to stop. and even the one time i was extremely wasted (which was my least favrite night of my life) even when i was offered cigs or pot or whatever i still said no. and i'm sure they could all get back at me at say that i drink and that's considered bad at least i'm not killing myself when doing it.
its cool to have an opinion but its really lame that youre pointing out all your friends smoking when youve made it obvious that they dont want people knowing.
yeah i know that i'm being a shity friend by doing that. but everybody who reads my lj knows what they are doing, so it isn't news to anyone. and after talking to a few people before and after writting this entry them and myself have agreed that without pointing out peoples mistakes they're not going to get fixed, and that's all i really wanted to do. obviouslly i knew that me writting an entry won't change their habbits, but they need to know how i feel about each action they're taking.
oops posted this under your user name because it's still logged in from my house hah___loveryhmesAugust 15 2006, 01:12:55 UTC
ive been friends with lisa for a while and i dont even know these girls but i knew how much it bothers her to see her friends do this. even at parties with her she hated to see peole she wasnt friends with light up. so im glad she said something finally. good job lisa.
you aren't being a shitty friend at all by doing that.if someone is going to be "badass" enough to smoke they should have the balls to effing man up to it. seriously.
i'm actually proud of you for saying something. and standing up to them when they confront you about it. it's hard to do that with friends.
it's not like you're saying that smoking makes them bad people. if you were i could understand them being mad. it's just smoking - in itself - is a bad THING. not bad like "oh you might get in trouble" but bad like, oh a billion people die from it. you care about them, obviously, and that's why you want them to quit. you also value your own health, and if they were such good friends they probably wouldn't want to expose your lungs to something you don't do yourself. i have friends who smoke, but they don't do it around me because they know i don't do it myself. you want better for your friends. how is that a bad thing?
i didn't pressure you. i kept asking if you wanted one because you said in kylees car on the way back from chases you might drink. sorry if you thought i was pressuring you.
i sure as hell would have have been a bad friend not to worry about them tory. just like you would have been a bad friend to not take care of jeriah jay and anthony when they were gone.
It's fine to worry about them Lisa, don't get me wrong. But giving them threats about telling their parents which want solve the problems either is doing wrong. Especially sharing their issue with everyone who reads your livejournal is wrong to go along with it. You dont need to do it publicly. You have their cell phone numbers. You simply could've given them a call, told them if they have a couple moments to spare with you in private to do so please and talk to them about it privately. Take it from someone who's done the whole "preaching to your friends and going off on them for smoking" route, it doesn't work. I've tried numerous of times with other friends, the only thing that can make them stop is their self mind and if they dont want too stop they sure as hell aren't going to stop over a livejournal entry.
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it doesnt consume who i am, it doesnt make up a part of me..
tyes, my actions and behaviors are my own. i do choose to behave certain ways, im not saying these are always right or always wrong. i do however choose my actions wisely around different ppl, everyone does it. i choose what i want ppl to know or not know. we are all "teens" & we learn through rights and wrongs.
i still think you should drop the names, you wouldnt want qoute un qoute what you think would be "embarasssing" moments or actions or words you have said shouted out to the world.
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im so glad you said something.
im always too afraid.
and im ashamed of that.
but i am so disappointed in everyone who drinks, smokes, whatever.
because i was friends with that group because i thought it was cool that they were Christian and always said its bad to smoke. and now they all do. its just really disappointing.
and it sucks because telling their parents probably wont do anything anyways. because it has to be their decision. not their parents telling them not to. they would still probably keep doing what they are doing and go behind their parents' backs anyways.:\
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i mean i do drink. sometimes. but i know when not to. and i know when to stop. and even the one time i was extremely wasted (which was my least favrite night of my life) even when i was offered cigs or pot or whatever i still said no. and i'm sure they could all get back at me at say that i drink and that's considered bad at least i'm not killing myself when doing it.
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but everybody who reads my lj knows what they are doing, so it isn't news to anyone.
and after talking to a few people before and after writting this entry them and myself have agreed that without pointing out peoples mistakes they're not going to get fixed, and that's all i really wanted to do. obviouslly i knew that me writting an entry won't change their habbits, but they need to know how i feel about each action they're taking.
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i'm actually proud of you for saying something.
and standing up to them when they confront you
about it. it's hard to do that with friends.
it's not like you're saying that smoking makes them bad people. if you were i could understand them being mad. it's just smoking - in itself - is a bad THING. not bad like "oh you might get in trouble" but bad like, oh a billion people die from it. you care about them, obviously, and that's why you want them to quit. you also value your own health, and if they were such good friends they probably wouldn't want to expose your lungs to something you don't do yourself.
i have friends who smoke, but they don't do it around me because they know i don't do it myself. you want better for your friends. how is that a bad thing?
i love you.
forever & ever, ok?
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Take it from someone who's done the whole "preaching to your friends and going off on them for smoking" route, it doesn't work. I've tried numerous of times with other friends, the only thing that can make them stop is their self mind and if they dont want too stop they sure as hell aren't going to stop over a livejournal entry.
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that's all i've got to say.
karma.
watch it.
because i warned you.
and it's gunna happen.
you know you messed with the wrong person.
and don't think i won't take you down.
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