Onwards and Upwards
Due to a huge amount of planning and determination and lots of lovely people I got through last week and there were some very good bits. So now I have to do the same this week. At some point I will have to start getting into something more normal but at the moment the aim is just to get through. Now looking for some new activities to keep me
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At times it's just one foot in front of the other.
There's a program called Recovery Inc. [pronounced Ink by the members but stands for "incorporated"] that has as one of its' sayings: Lower your expectations to raise your performance.
Which means something like at times we expect so much out of ourselves that we get in our own way about it and we can't do stuff because then we get all nervous about it. So instead, Recovery Inc. recommends expecting less of ourselves-- rather than more-- and maybe we will be able to relax a bit and do a tiny bit more.
Maybe that will help a little bit. Maybe not. If not, just know that I am here and some others too quietly rooting you onwards.
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I will look at Recovery Inc.
I have learnt over the last few years that I am best lowering my expectations of everything. So despite people saying I shouldn't worry about it till it happens or I should have more confidence I can do things, I am less shocked by things when I have already anticipated they might not go so well (and however horrible things are now, I had already, when he was apparently well and after all far too young for me to consider this, aware of what a disaster it would be if this happened and starting to talk to someone about it, it just happened before we got far into talking), and will perform better if I am not over confident and although I set my aims high I set my expectations low.
I am applying the same ideas here and it is good to hear this from you. So many people seem to think differently from me on all this.
Trish
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