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uncle_vanya

Home again.

May 14, 2006 07:56

I got back from Adelaide last night, but was far too tired to even think about logging on ( Read more... )

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Welcome Home Ivan... cynthesis May 13 2006, 23:20:57 UTC

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Re: Welcome Home Ivan... uncle_vanya May 13 2006, 23:46:39 UTC

Thanks for the card, too. Sensible response follows sometime soon.

I hear you..... mudhooks May 14 2006, 04:00:38 UTC

I grew up without my father. He chose to avoid the "entanglements" of family. The upshot was that I also grew up without my brother and two sisters (his via two other wives.... as flighty as Dad was, he had a rather old-fashioned sense that one had to be married, he just didn't like to STAY married). It also meant that I had no contact with his sisters and brother and a multitude of cousins ( ... )

Re: I hear you..... uncle_vanya May 14 2006, 04:22:17 UTC

Yes, there are certainly a few parallels, Mudhooks. (Thanks for dropping by, too.) With my lot, I feel lucky that all the cousins were prepared to bide their time until two of the three sisters in the older generation were no longer around to create unpleasantness. I think it says something about my mother, too - she managed not to get tarred with the same brush as her mother, and the cousins thought her worth the effort after all these years...

My remaining great-aunt is no saint, and she's not totally innocent in the recurring feud, but she is less dogmatic than the other two. I'm looking forward to seeing her again - but we'd better be quick. She's 86, and not well.

Re: I hear you..... mudhooks May 14 2006, 04:41:02 UTC

Sometimes a little love and compassion goes a long way to melting a family "iceberg".... Perhaps it isn't too late to make a difference with her?

Re: I hear you..... uncle_vanya May 14 2006, 05:01:01 UTC

I think that, with my grandmother gone, the last of that generation will be looking for peace and reconciliation herself.

Mind you, I won't be telling her about my grandmother's photo album. She took to it with a pair of scissors, you see, and edited her sisters out of her past - except in a couple of photos, and she must have left them because they were unflattering.

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tasterainbows May 16 2006, 04:49:47 UTC

OH MY GOODNESS!!! AN IVAN SIGHTING!!!

uncle_vanya May 16 2006, 07:18:36 UTC

It had to happen one day, didn't it? Do I owe you a postcard? *giggles*

tasterainbows May 16 2006, 13:35:12 UTC

Perhaps... I've moved AGAIN (probably about three times, really), and I got your email that you have, too... I am just rotten at correspondence these days!

uncle_vanya May 16 2006, 20:33:45 UTC

That makes two of us...