fuck me up the goatass running sideways with a chainsaw... NO LUBE ! ! !

[unclehobbu]

I've been asked to do something that I haven't done in a very long time and for good reasons. However what's been asked of me has been asked with nothing but the best of intentions... my only thing is... I don't know if I can do this again. Allow someone into my life in such a personal way, knowing that I'm going to get hurt. Knowing that I will

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Knowiung what its like to be a confidant...

[aramuswulf]

Loving is NEVER easy....thats what honestly makes it so worth it.

If you can with this person, take it slow. Let them know whats running thru the mind and that your scared of these things. If they do love you as much as it semms then they will understand and concur, if not I can bury them.

It hurts like hell, believe me I know. It hurts even more watching it coming like a freight train. But if you want to be happy you must take that chance.

Coincidentally Heather is my 3rd try at love, and I think, even though the cliche is tired, 3rd time might be the charm.

Heres a little hint though.....self-fulfilling prophecy is a bitch. Expect good and not bad and you'd be surprised at what happens.

[the_leaking_pen]

wait wait.. let me get this straight.

you have to put yourself in a postion where you might be hurt, to help this person, becuase your the only one that can help them the way they need, and everyone else is incompetent for one reason or another, so you have to do it?

is that basically what youre saying?
ive had a discussion with a few other people before about "project" SO's. basically, dating while helping the person with a problem, then moving on. this sounds almost like what youre doing. maybe not. if youre admitting to yourself that the relationship has no long long term possibility, then ask yourself, is the joy that the relationship, being with the person, and helping them with their issues, the companionship and help with your own issues they provide, worth the eventual pain on all sides if it goes sour? thats my criteria for starting a relationship. thats one decision ive never made wrongly. ive had one balance out dead even, but every other time, the joy has been more.

[unclehobbu]

I'm not dating anyone right now.

[unclehobbu]

This person that I've decided to help is not the one that I 'love'... it's a friend that needs help in ways that others in this group don't have the experience that I do in dealing with. But in order to help them I have to alow them close to my heart and in past experiences I've always gotten hurt and let down

[the_leaking_pen]

What I'm scared of is getting my heart broken again and not having enough left for WB

[cosmicjester]

"Come to the edge", he said.
They said, "We are afraid."
"Come to the edge", he said.
They came...
He pushed them...
And they flew.

-Guillaume Apollinaire

[unclehobbu]

'Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.'

~Guillaume Apollinaire

[cosmicjester]

Apollinaire is brilliant, no? Just make sure the pause doesn't turn into a full stop.

[the_leaking_pen]

why? if you are happy where you are, what use further pursuit? i find that when i already have happiness, chasing for more tends to lose me what i have. almost made that mistake just recently, worst than ive ever made it. someone in my life whos helped me to be happier and more at home just being me than ive EVER been before, and in pursuit of not pushing her away, i fear i almost pushed her away. sigh. ahh well.

and im going to have to look this apollinaire fellow up.