It's just too damn long

[undead_rtwa]

This is actually a response to a post by a particular individual on my friendslist, but as it became longer and longer i realized I had to put it here. There's no way I could make it fit. It's also hurried. sorry. i also can't link the post it's in refference too because I think their post is friends only. Sorry if the cut doesn't work. i

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[mr_quackenbush]

i think we're on the same page here. of course, my real thinking is that people who are looking for polyamorous relationships are selfish and are not taking their partners needs into account at all, or if they are, they pay on lip service to that most essential element of pair bonding. Polyamorous people, of course, resist this statement. It's not unsurprising, however, given that part of the selfishness required to seek out such situations is also given to post-hoc justification of the bad behavior, which is what gives rise to the theory of polyamory in the first place. All i can say is everyone i've known who was polyamorous that i had a long enough period to observe and then draw conclusions about was not doing right either by themselves or by their partner. Given that that's the case, my reaction to the pushback about "healthy polyamorous relationships" is a shrug of the shoulder's akin to what i give to fundamentalist christians who insist that they've spoken to jesus personally.

[mr_quackenbush]

I think you're absolutely right when you say that the kind of mentality that causes one to abuse this kind of activity is the exact same kind of mentality that causes one to fervently guard theirs and others abuse of this kind of activity

oops!

[undead_rtwa]

If you can't tell by the amount of hot air, that was me. ;)