Comments | undertheecovers: gotta get this out of my system

undertheecovers

gotta get this out of my system

Aug 29, 2008 16:22

This is something that I really need to get out of my system & I desperately need some advice on what i should do. This is something personal; I usually don't do this but I really need some help..

( Can people truly change for the better? )

! aboutthegirl

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asweirdasyouare August 29 2008, 20:42:13 UTC

i hate to be the one to say this but move on. you really need to. you cant let someone so set on hurting u and betraying your trust keep dragging you down. and thats all he is doing. u get nothing from being friends or whatever with him. he is not the same person you fell in love with. its going to hurt but u have to let the old him go and understand that he is just like the snobby guy now and not your old Bob i guess. and if u ever need to talk i am here for everyone cause i just love helping people since i have been helped so much in my own struggles

undertheecovers September 1 2008, 04:58:12 UTC

thank you so much for your wonderful comment! also, if you ever need anything i am also here to listen & offer any advice that i possible could; it's the least i could do from you supporting me. if you ever need anything you can e-mail me at: undertheecovers@gmail.com or msg me on my livejournal.

thank you again for your comment! i am trying to do my best at loving myself :)

ucdshoelace August 29 2008, 20:43:08 UTC

I came over from girl_adviceBut really...really? Really? Seriously ( ... )

undertheecovers September 1 2008, 04:56:03 UTC

thank you so much for your comment! i am trying my best to start my life over again & surround myself with positive people who actually care about me. thank you once again :)

aubrey_wannabe August 29 2008, 20:53:17 UTC

Wow... What a story. Reminds me a lot of my first boyfriend ( ... )

aubrey_wannabe August 29 2008, 20:55:48 UTC

I'm sorry this is so long. :)

undertheecovers September 1 2008, 04:53:33 UTC

thank you for such a wonderful, up-lifting comment!

i am SOO happy that you found such a wonderful guy! :D you seem like such a great person who deserves love :)

i just want to say that i really enjoyed your comment! you make me want to believe that there a great guys out there & true love does actually exist. so thank you for making me believe that the saying "they're all the same" isn't true. :)

citrus_scented August 29 2008, 21:57:20 UTC

Don't worry about him anymore. You sound like you've got a lot to worry about right now without him around screwing things up. So go have fun on your own! He doesn't sound like he's worth the trouble - at least, not as the person he has become.

undertheecovers September 1 2008, 04:50:09 UTC

thank you so much! & i agree, he's changed so much that i don't even want to be surrounded with his "evil" behaviour.

clocktowerkiss August 29 2008, 22:32:13 UTC

Here from girl_advice.

Stop being his doormat. Stop being the girl he runs to when he's screwed up something in his life, and then letting him screw up YOUR life when he leaves. Stop falling for his games, and move on.

You deserve better than this guy.

clocktowerkiss August 29 2008, 22:59:42 UTC

The new guy that he changed to, well to me, was him all along (Just saying after really getting to know him over HS..)

You can do better by the way, cheer up.

sigma698 August 29 2008, 23:56:45 UTC

Came over from advice4teens =D

Agreed with what everyone else has already said. You can't *make* someone be a different person. As we grow up, get some years and experience on us, we tend to change. Sometimes it's small changes, sometimes it's bigger changes. So maybe the person that he's grown into is a self-absorbed asshat. Not your fault and it's really not the fault of anyone else around him. It's just...who he is.

It's time to let go and stop, as someone else said, being his doormat. I'm sure he thinks that you'll just take him back once again, because that's the cycle you've thrown yourself into. But make that cycle stop. You don't need to lose who *you* are over a guy. They're totally not worth it ;) One day, you'll find someone who treats you with respect. Someone who shares common values and ideals with you.

undertheecovers September 1 2008, 04:45:46 UTC

thank you for the wonderful comment! i know i need to stop the cycle that's one of the reasons why i broke up with him; just to be away from the negative life he tried to create for me.

& i really hope that one day mr.right does come along :) i also hope that you find (or have found) your perfect man - i think every girl deserves that form of happiness & love :)

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