Comments | unmowngrass: LJI 10 wk 2 -- That one friend

unmowngrass

LJI 10 wk 2 -- That one friend

Dec 04, 2016 18:18

House of CardsThe house of cards that was my friendship with Emma crashed down around five years ago, when she told me she had gotten skin cancer (from too many sunbeds). And I flat-out didn't believe her ( Read more... )

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murielle December 5 2016, 06:53:31 UTC

Very good reflection on a friendship.

unmowngrass December 6 2016, 18:55:19 UTC

thank you

rayaso December 5 2016, 21:01:36 UTC

This was a very good account of a very complicated friendship. Her various mental health issues must have made things difficult.

unmowngrass December 6 2016, 18:55:48 UTC

aye

thanks for reading

magazhchi December 6 2016, 10:15:37 UTC

Thinking about it , maybe even I would have done exactly what you did. Avoided a confrontation, just moved away till it disappeared. It was an interesting read and Emma was quite a character.

unmowngrass December 6 2016, 18:56:49 UTC

yeah, that's true.

writing this, revisiting it has just made me feel sorry for her again. I hope she has peace now.

magazhchi December 6 2016, 10:15:52 UTC

Thinking about it , maybe even I would have done exactly what you did. Avoided a confrontation, just moved away till it disappeared. It was an interesting read and Emma was quite a character.

halfshellvenus December 8 2016, 04:39:20 UTC

There's so much honesty in this, about the imperfection of relationships and the people in them. Given your past with Emma, and the odd parts that remained in adulthood, I'm not surprised you didn't believe her. Part of that borderline personality is attention-seeking behavior, and part of schizophrenia is believing things that only exist in your own head.

I am sorry she got cancer, though, and hope having her Dad near was a comfort to her.

It was only much later I realised that she was lonely, too; more acquaintances basically meant more politics, not more friendship.
This was a fascinating insight on what it can be like to be that "other more popular person" for some. It never would have occurred to me, but I think there's a lot of truth in it.