You don't know me, I don't know you, but please allow me to say: thank-you. Thank-you for having the courage to share this part of your story with us. I know that it cannot be easy to do: I recently escaped a very violent and abusive relationship as well, and have used my own blog to try and come to terms with what I experienced and the aftermath thereof. Please keep writing - first, for yourself, and second, for us. You are making a difference and will continue to do so in ways that you cannot yet imagine.
Like you, I am a musician as well. For me, writing and performing music is as essential as oxygen. With that in mind, please allow me to remind you to never apologize for your abilities to anyone, ever. If anyone tries to make you stop, remove them from your life; otherwise, they will be like a cancer gnawing at your soul. Based on what you wrote above, though, it sounds as though you already know this.
Keep writing. Keep playing. Keep singing. Remain honest to yourself. And again, thank-you.
Thank YOU. Thank you so much for reinforcing my momentary loose-lipped strength. I have such a hard time writing anything even slightly personal when I'm sober (and I'm usually sober) but it's extremely helpful to know that you relate and appreciate my sharing.
You're completely right about removing people who don't understand from my life. Now that I'm a little stronger than I was, and have known what it was like to buckle under, it's easy to say "I need this, and don't even THINK about keeping me from it" to a partner, and I'm trying to be forgiving of 20-year-old me for not being able to say it.
I'm also at the stage where I need to forgive myself for allowing the things from my past to happen to me. The past cannot be changed, but it's not a total loss if we learn from it and come out stronger people in the end.
Again, thanks. I continue to look forward to reading your entries here, regardless of the subject. Also, do please let me know if you should ever make it up to Vancouver to play. It would be great to be able to see you perform live!
you're rightkatmulkeyDecember 2 2010, 06:24:00 UTC
there's nothing to lose when asking friends for a boost, for a word or reminder here or there. Especially those of us who love your great music, all your hard work, and who want to shine a light on it! When you share how your divorce muzzled you and your art, you reveal your experience with adversity, you show your strength to get through it, and your motivation to overcome it. These qualities can't be divorced from you. If you need a boost, it's fine to ask for help; bring on your list, and we will do what we can!
I let people know about your music all the time, and play it for new people every chance I get. I Also Have my blurb on Facebook as some lines from Bruises. You are mega talented.
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You don't know me, I don't know you, but please allow me to say: thank-you. Thank-you for having the courage to share this part of your story with us. I know that it cannot be easy to do: I recently escaped a very violent and abusive relationship as well, and have used my own blog to try and come to terms with what I experienced and the aftermath thereof. Please keep writing - first, for yourself, and second, for us. You are making a difference and will continue to do so in ways that you cannot yet imagine.
Like you, I am a musician as well. For me, writing and performing music is as essential as oxygen. With that in mind, please allow me to remind you to never apologize for your abilities to anyone, ever. If anyone tries to make you stop, remove them from your life; otherwise, they will be like a cancer gnawing at your soul. Based on what you wrote above, though, it sounds as though you already know this.
Keep writing. Keep playing. Keep singing. Remain honest to yourself. And again, thank-you.
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You're completely right about removing people who don't understand from my life. Now that I'm a little stronger than I was, and have known what it was like to buckle under, it's easy to say "I need this, and don't even THINK about keeping me from it" to a partner, and I'm trying to be forgiving of 20-year-old me for not being able to say it.
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Again, thanks. I continue to look forward to reading your entries here, regardless of the subject. Also, do please let me know if you should ever make it up to Vancouver to play. It would be great to be able to see you perform live!
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When you share how your divorce muzzled you and your art, you reveal your experience with adversity, you show your strength to get through it, and your motivation to overcome it. These qualities can't be divorced from you.
If you need a boost, it's fine to ask for help; bring on your list, and we will do what we can!
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