Something to prove and nothing to lose

[unwoman]

This is a long-overdue outpouring. I've had too much gin tonight

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[unwoman]

I know. At least when I was sowing MY post-divorce wild oats it was in a very friendly manner.

His stories of how all the women in his life had betrayed him always used to impress me with how he managed not to be a misogynist given his history. What we learned is that misogyny can take many forms and some are invisible.

Thank you!

[unwoman]

Woo hoo, I think she is awesome too! Thank you so, so much for your support. I'm always so happy to see you at all the shows.

You're Not Alone

[grx]

Your story is very similar to my wife Mel(instantkarmma) and her ex husband. All the way up to being told she was ruining her life and him turning their church against her. From what I've heard from her and her high school friends that know him, he was a control freak that would barely let her leave the house. You and she are very brave to speak out about it, and I think it's important that you do. Mel even wrote a song about it.

We even have the same issue of wanting to be heard as artists but not wanting to be seen as "fame chasers." Just wanted to let you know that there are people out here that "get it" and appreciate what you went through. Keep up the fight!

Re: You're Not Alone

[unwoman]

Oh, wow. I am so glad your friend was brave too. Great song.

My ex was so insistent that he supported my music, coming to a lot of my gigs and roadie-ing for me (which I totally don't need) but when I talking about going on tour for longer than a week or quitting my dayjob he made it clear those were unacceptable.

Re: You're Not Alone

[grx]

I had a girlfriend that was the same way. In my old band she would go to shows and say she supported us, but would scream and yell whenever I had to go to rehearsal or stay in the studio. Mel's ex husband, and yours it seems as well, crossed the line into abuse as far as I'm concerned. I'm glad I found Mel and we can support each other. It's amazing being able to play in two bands with my wife! We play with Nathaniel Johnstone and Civita. Here she is:

Re: You're Not Alone

[unwoman]

That's so awesome! She's great! :)

[arcstone]

For what its worth, I make sure to play your music at most every gig I DJ at.

Thanks for sharing and the fans you have are sure to support you. I know I will at the very least.

[unwoman]

Thank you for playing my songs!

[doteatop]

We haven't been in touch in a million years of course, but I've been wondering about you, and I'm glad to have these insights into how you're doing. It's great that you can express yourself this clearly and pull together the various aspects of your life in this way. Maybe I need too much gin too.

[unwoman]

Thank you! I wish you posted more often, I like following how you're doing too. Are you on twitter and facebook and I'm missing your updates there, or just more private? (no judgment either way.) :)