And if you ask for support, you'll be surprised at how often you get it! We artists and musicians need to be less shy about doing this.
Your post resonated with me on a personal level too. I was also in a horrible post-9/11 relationship (aside: I often wonder about the extent of the personal/psychological effect of this event on artists and peoples' life choices) where the other person actively discouraged any pursuit of music. It also took me years to regain a healthy perspective and break free. You should keep writing & exploring this story - it will definitely help others - and at some point I may try telling mine as well.
Wow, that is a strange coincidence! I am definitely interested in hearing more of your story. To actively discourage something your partner loves, that is heinous.
In my case our first date was the Friday after 9/11 and I don't know why or to what extent the attack affected this, but I fell for him hard, on a bunch of false pretenses, then used the fact that I'd fallen for him hard as an excuse to make a poor decision and pursue him. (I make dumb decisions sometimes.)
I've been listening to your music for years (I found a set of emails from early 2001 that I sent to you telling you how much I enjoyed the music and asking questions about them). I happily jump on new releases, even if timing has kept me from making it to shows (but I'm changing jobs to one that involves less travel, so hopefully that will be less of an issue).
I would say you've definitely communicated through your music in the past, and i'm looking forward to hearing what you have to say next.
Also - your music helped get me through my own separation/divorce - a process that started just a few months after first finding "Lament for Peter Pan".
Also, also - your music helped kick off a renewed interest in the cello that resulted in me getting one and starting lessons (only to get damage my knee a few months later which put a stall to the lessons - I really should restart those).
I wish I still had my emails from 2001. I can't remember your particular email, but I didn't get a lot of fan mail then (nor do I now) so I'm sure it was very important to me at the time. Thank you for sticking with me!
Oh -- quick question -- which version of Lament for Peter Pan? Piano or electronics?
I am working up a new live version of the song right now and really excited about it. It's for backing tracks, cello and viola, but I've been wanting to record a good piano version for a while now, too.
Man, you so dodged the bullet there! Yes, leave the things behind that hold you back. Surround yourself with people who are doing what you want to do and people who support your vision.
It is pretty clear to me at the very beginning when I met you that you are always a musician that wants to have a music career more than just a part time job. So he really should have known this before he married you. I am happy that now you are free to pursue your dreams without having people holding you back.
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Fantastic post.
And if you ask for support, you'll be surprised at how often you get it! We artists and musicians need to be less shy about doing this.
Your post resonated with me on a personal level too. I was also in a horrible post-9/11 relationship (aside: I often wonder about the extent of the personal/psychological effect of this event on artists and peoples' life choices) where the other person actively discouraged any pursuit of music. It also took me years to regain a healthy perspective and break free. You should keep writing & exploring this story - it will definitely help others - and at some point I may try telling mine as well.
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In my case our first date was the Friday after 9/11 and I don't know why or to what extent the attack affected this, but I fell for him hard, on a bunch of false pretenses, then used the fact that I'd fallen for him hard as an excuse to make a poor decision and pursue him. (I make dumb decisions sometimes.)
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I would say you've definitely communicated through your music in the past, and i'm looking forward to hearing what you have to say next.
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Also, also - your music helped kick off a renewed interest in the cello that resulted in me getting one and starting lessons (only to get damage my knee a few months later which put a stall to the lessons - I really should restart those).
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I wish I still had my emails from 2001. I can't remember your particular email, but I didn't get a lot of fan mail then (nor do I now) so I'm sure it was very important to me at the time. Thank you for sticking with me!
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I am working up a new live version of the song right now and really excited about it. It's for backing tracks, cello and viola, but I've been wanting to record a good piano version for a while now, too.
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I'm to see you out there doin' it.
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It is pretty clear to me at the very beginning when I met you that you are always a musician that wants to have a music career more than just a part time job. So he really should have known this before he married you. I am happy that now you are free to pursue your dreams without having people holding you back.
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