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"Do people #change or stay the same?" #trust #uu

May 21, 2012 00:20

"Do people change or stay the same?" was the topic of our recent women's circle. My knee jerk reaction was, "Of course people change. Life = change!" Then something happened that made me think about it differently ( Read more... )

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I hear that! ext_1222548 May 22 2012, 18:24:00 UTC

My mother once told me that she feels like she is the same person she is now as she was when she was twelve years old.

I recently had a baby, and when this first slew of Mother's Day cards came in, one of them read "Motherhood has made an amazing change in you!"

I was actually insulted, although I knew that the card itself was loving. From my perspective, motherhood just made me more me than I was before. --Wendy, a U.U. in Livermore

Re: I hear that! uu_mom June 6 2012, 05:19:58 UTC

Hi Wendy,

I'm not sure I thought about that upon motherhood, but I do think that's how I felt. It's another step on the journey. Though we do change - we learn and grow; it's just something at the core that stays the same.

- Joyce

#Character can change which makes it hard for those who make #mistakes #uu uu_mom June 7 2012, 16:32:36 UTC

It occurred to me that the downfall for the idea of counting on someone's character due to their past is that if one does not move to a new geographic location and make new friends, then some people will judge them based on past mistakes.

I know too many people who are judged harshly by people who just think of a person based on some past problems. I understand it's hard to trust someone who's hurt you or used you, but sometimes that's not the case. People are afraid they will be hurt or used and don't get to know the person better.

I'm sure they deal with that in AA, NA, & other therapy and support groups. They usually suggest a new set of friends. Some people have to avoid relatives because they are not supportive and make them feel worse about themselves.

I guess that's just the nature of some people. I don't see a lot of that among my Unitarian Universalist friends, though we are human and everyone makes mistakes. At least most of us are making at effort to improve.