My uncle's 2nd son has the same name as one of my other uncles - first, middle, last. Once families get to a certain size you just kind of have to accept that there will be name repetition and it's not really that weird. I named my son a family name - Ben - and wouldn't be surprised at all if one of my cousins used the name as well. I've never really felt like I couldn't use a name because someone else had used it, though - naming my kids is something my wife and I did, not the rest of the family or the world.
and, i think that if they did explain to the family the reasoning behind it that the family could get over it....at least i hope.
if they did lane as a middle name then lane would become a nickname of sorts...which would not be copying since he would have a different formal name.
and this has been a question of mine with the ultra orthodox communities where not many people are entered into a family. there are only so many names and so many dead people to name after....so it would lead me to believe that they would have people in the same family with the same name....
I would say no on the different spelling. David would want it spelled like the family name.
The more I think about it, the more it doesn't seem like that big a deal to me. Of course the family will understand. They are all very close. Of course, I'm not the one choosing a name that my kid will have for the rest of his life.
The next hurdle is whether to use it as a middle or last name, and what exactly goes with Lane?
I really like using family names and I don't care if there is some repetition. we ruled out some names because our kids would have had first cousins with the same name, but if one of our favorites was on the list, we would have just had a Big Jimmy and a Little Jimmy. if they decide to use the name, they should probably choose a differentiating nickname. it might be better just just use Laney from the start instead of the family deciding she's Little Lane. I would also have them talk to the parents of the other girl.
Name the child Lane. Chose a middle name that goes well with Lane (as long as it isn't Brian, or anything close to "Bryant" for the sake of avoiding plus-sized women's clothing store jokes!). When the two are together you can call them by first and middle names, or shortened further to initials such as L.J.
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and, i think that if they did explain to the family the reasoning behind it that the family could get over it....at least i hope.
if they did lane as a middle name then lane would become a nickname of sorts...which would not be copying since he would have a different formal name.
and this has been a question of mine with the ultra orthodox communities where not many people are entered into a family. there are only so many names and so many dead people to name after....so it would lead me to believe that they would have people in the same family with the same name....
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The more I think about it, the more it doesn't seem like that big a deal to me. Of course the family will understand. They are all very close. Of course, I'm not the one choosing a name that my kid will have for the rest of his life.
The next hurdle is whether to use it as a middle or last name, and what exactly goes with Lane?
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