winter

[vagabondesque]

sometimes i just don't want to deal. i sat in my bedroom floor two nights ago, crying. i still have things that he gave me everywhere, postcards tucked into books, little notes in drawers, these are the parts of him that were wonderful and sweet and too good to be true, the little reminders of him that i love and miss. i spend so many waking

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[dragon_smoke]

I really, really like what you said phoenix, but just wanted to add for Natasha that I also understand how frustrating it is that in this culture, we are typically (by those around us most often, such as employers/coworkers/acquaintances) given the "designated period for bereavement leave" and then expected to "get over it and get on with it." Yet I understand how hard it is to "get over it" after such a defined amount of time, and we are all different and that is OK.

It will take time, and you are unique and your greiving period will be also.

[psychospider]

This is so sad to read Natasha. I am so sorry you are going through this. I know the grieving process is hard and long, and there is no expected date of when it will all magically stop and get better.

But is there anything you can do with all of James' stuff? I don't think burning everything is good (as that kind of cleansing act is usually reserved for the other kind of breakups). But could you find some sort of special box or trunk to put everything in? Then maybe entrust it to a good friend like Mandy or something. Maybe it would help with the day to day reminders? Then maybe later, when you are more healed, you can get everything out again?