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[vagynafondue]

I found out yesterday that one of my oldest friends from LJ died over the weekend and I'm just stunned and saddened. I woke up this morning and it slowly came back to me after the haze lifted, and so I felt compelled to post something on here, because anywhere else (Facebook, my blog, Twitter) just wouldn't feel right

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[yummydeb]

I'm sorry about your friend :-( I pop in to your site now and then to see how you and the boys are doing, but never comment, either.

But Ami was right. You are a great mom :-) And so freaking funny, I don't even...

It's strange to me that so many of my LJ friends are people I care so much about, and yet if they died, I wouldn't even know. I have an LJ friend who right now is preparing to die, but because he can't get internet at the hospice, I just won't know, and I hate that.

[vagynafondue]

YUMMYDEB! :)

It's hard to explain to non-LJ people how special this place/is, and how easy it was to grow close to people who might only seem like just user names to some people, but turn out to be really great friends. Just because we might only know someone on the Internet doesn't mean we don't feel things when a death occurs.

But my friends at work are just like..."Huh?"

We had just taken a short road trip to Michigan a few weeks ago, too, and I remember thinking that it sucks that Ami lived on the other side, about 3 hours away from where we had gone, but now it doesn't seem like it was that far at all and we should have found a way to fit in it.

Should have, would have, could have.

Ugh. :(

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, too, Deb. But I hope you are otherwise well! <3

[twirlgrrl]

That's horrible! I'm so sorry. And I feel the same, I'm worried I won't know what happens to my LJ friends and that feels wrong. I don't know. I'm so grateful for my online friends (like you!) and it's hard to find the boundary or let go of what these connections are NOT. I've always said I would travel the world and visit everybody if I had the money... But I get the feeling that creeps people out.

[cogenthoughts]

I'm sorry about your friend. You're right, LJ always has been different and Facebook and Twitter just don't have the same connection. That's why I try so hard to stay here. I try to keep up with blogs but it's hard.

[millysdaughter]

I am sorry for your loss. It hurts to lose a good friend.