Comments | valerie_white: Text of Bedford Lyceum Polyamory presentation

valerie_white

Text of Bedford Lyceum Polyamory presentation

Jan 29, 2006 21:21

What follows is the approximate text of my Bedford Lyceum presentation. PLease note again that I am speaking as a private person and as executive director of the Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund and NOT as a spokesperson for Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness. The UUPA has "speaker guidelines" which I am unwilling to ( Read more... )

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technomom January 31 2006, 04:26:55 UTC

Great speech!

I'd almost forgotten about that quote. I'm tickled that you found it useful :-)

sambear January 31 2006, 04:39:44 UTC

Huzzah!

hopeevey February 2 2006, 13:05:43 UTC

Lovely! May I link to this from my LJ?

permission to link valerie_white February 2 2006, 15:10:36 UTC

Happily granted. Thanks for the kind words.

hazelsteapot February 6 2006, 04:22:18 UTC

What are the "speaker's guidelines" that you could not adopt? Were you supposed to distance yourself from or condemn non-polyfidelitous relationships? While I like the speech, I wish it could've more explicitly included those of us who not only choose to have more than one relationship, but also choose to be sexual outside of those relationship(s) with the consent of all parties ( ... )

comments valerie_white February 7 2006, 01:49:10 UTC

The UUPA speakers' guidelines included restrictions I don't agree with . . . such as not "advocating" polyamory. If I think a practice is fulfilling and ethical, I don't see why I shouldn't advocate it, so I won't undertake to abide by the guidelines. There were other things I disagreed with as well, including some that suggested one should not use humor!!

I did explicitly include "those . . . who . . . chose to be sexual outside of those relatioships with the consent of all parties" I said, "We accept that it is possible that any of the three of us may have, upon agreement of all concerned, safe sexualoving relationships with others outside our triad. And in fact I do have a non-resident secondary partner."

Thank you for the point about discrimination and about violence. What you say is quite true and I appreciate your pointing it out. If I give a similar talk again, I'll be more careful of my wording.

Re: comments hazelsteapot February 7 2006, 02:54:17 UTC

Thanks! :)