Home again, home again
Vacation suits me. It probably suits you as well. Kinda nice about that... but I think that I am defined and substantial because of my work. So I have to work to feel good about myself.
Or, vacation is nice but only because it is a break. Not because of itself.
Work. Work. Work.
When I got back, messages had piled up as they are want to do. One of them was from an old flame, Erin.
Erin and I dated awhile and had enjoyed our relationship together. It ended on a bit of a strain as we went our separate directions but we maintained a distant friendship. I should mention that I have a tendancy to have better friendships at a distance than say day to day. Just an observation.
Erin had written me and told me all that was going on in her life. That she had been having marital turmoil and had moved to Oaklahoma to begin anew.
In talking with Erin, I realized how much disappears in our memories about our previous relationships. I also realized that part of the reason she contacted me was idealization. Where, over time, I had changed in her minds eye.
I like the fact she thinks of me as less of an asshole than she used to.
It got me to thinking about all of my relationships and what I wanted to remember about them. I feel the need to spill the beans.
To you at least, you get the executive summary. For my friends list, you get the longer brief.
-Daniel
Or, vacation is nice but only because it is a break. Not because of itself.
Work. Work. Work.
When I got back, messages had piled up as they are want to do. One of them was from an old flame, Erin.
Erin and I dated awhile and had enjoyed our relationship together. It ended on a bit of a strain as we went our separate directions but we maintained a distant friendship. I should mention that I have a tendancy to have better friendships at a distance than say day to day. Just an observation.
Erin had written me and told me all that was going on in her life. That she had been having marital turmoil and had moved to Oaklahoma to begin anew.
In talking with Erin, I realized how much disappears in our memories about our previous relationships. I also realized that part of the reason she contacted me was idealization. Where, over time, I had changed in her minds eye.
I like the fact she thinks of me as less of an asshole than she used to.
It got me to thinking about all of my relationships and what I wanted to remember about them. I feel the need to spill the beans.
To you at least, you get the executive summary. For my friends list, you get the longer brief.
-Daniel