Perception of you

[vastatuuli]

This is something I've been pondering on for a few months.

Poll Perception of you

I use 'better' and 'worse' to represent a scale from good to bad in anything. Whether it's your skill in any activity, your moral/ethical goodness or another quality of your character. It doesn't matter if the scale isn't objective; just pick the most suitable alternative for you

Comments

[wgarv]

My thinking goes along the same lines as werdnus. It feels good to be appreciated and I'd like to live by the image even though it is often stressful. And when someone sees that I am not as good as it looks...? Then we'll see who the real friends are.

[vastatuuli]

I like that attitude!

[omnifarious]

I know what I tend to do. And I tend to give the impression that I'm more competent than I am. I'm not completely sure why.

Though, for things where I'm really not very good I tend to try to pretend that I'm worse than I am and that I don't care about being better, whether I actually do or not. Then if I care enough to take the time, I slowly ratchet up how competent I am (often in venues where nobody would notice me) til I'm in the upper 10% or so, then switch. I usually don't stop trying to ratchet up then though.

I think I'm similar in many different areas in which better or worse can be evaluated.

I think it's because I don't like appearing weak or vulnerable.

That's an interesting and thought provoking question.

[vastatuuli]

That's awesome, 'why' might just be the best question ever.

for things where I'm really not very good I tend to try to pretend that I'm worse than I am and that I don't care about being better

I do that too, actually quite a lot. In fact I always try to pretend that I don't care about being good or bad when it comes to doing something. I'd say it's a way of hiding what you think is a weakness or vulnerability, too. Until it no longer is either of those, yes...