A little bout with self pit...sorry

[veganhothead]

I just watched that TV movie about Wallis Simpson and Edward VIII. The man gave up the throne for love. Rob won't even come home from the pub at a decent hour most of the time.

Was she that special, or am I profoundly un-special?

With each passing day I have less and less confidence in this relationship.

Shit.

Comments

[mneomosyne]

It's not her or you but him and him you should compare. You don't change his ability to love by changing yourself. And a relationship isn't just about love, it's also two people working on a way to both be happy, if all the effort is coming from one person than it's impossible to have a good relationship. lol, and I really shouldn't say anything since I've been single since birth.

I wish you good luck, I guess lots of patience and common sense should point in the right direction. ;)

[kcontheroad]

(((HUG)))

I expect Edward stayed out late at the pub, or whatever the royal equivalent is, from time to time. They didn't put that in the flick. Don't compare your relationships to others. You're not profoundly un-special in any sense, of that I am certain.

That said, your heart will tell you how you really feel about Rob. You know if you're in love with Rob-the-way-he-is or Rob-the-way-you-wish-he-were-or-how-he-was-when-you-first-met. If the answer is the former, there's hope. If the answer is the latter, you've some soul-searching to do.

((HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG))

[veganhothead]

Yeuch, I've been doing nothing but soul searching for the past three or four years. But you're right. I don't want to be stuck in a relationship of convenience ten years down the road.

*sigh*

[missdiane]

Maybe he really didn't want the throne because he'd rather be able to go to the pub?

Dunno - just a thought that might make you feel better. *hugs*

[veganhothead]

Thanks for the hugs and advice, folks. It's much appreciated.

[naru_mourir]

i understand how you feel. don't be discouraged, though. men are much less romantic (civilized? :P) than they were back then. try talking to him about it. if that doesn't work, kick his ass. that seems to smarten them up. ;)

[veganhothead]

But I like his ass! ;-)