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velvetelvis

questions of the day

Nov 06, 2007 15:19

At work, I am often called upon to invent a question of the day. Others ask trivia, some ask riddles, some ask us to pick the lesser of two evils. I always aim at trying to reveal some interesting aspect of our characters... Normally I wouldn't post these here, but my own answer seemed to beg a journal entry ( Read more... )

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kruszer November 16 2007, 00:58:44 UTC

You do have one advantage: your gender. While both sperm and ovum quality are higher in younger years, your clock won't permanently expire as early as mine will. At 50 or 60 you could conceivably marry a much younger gal and father many healthy babies.

Not so with me. Any pregnancy over 35 becomes "risky" 'they' say - and here i was going to have 5 to 10 kids, homebirths, and show the world that you don't need to contracept and can trust God to provide for the children he blesses you with.... and here i can't even trust that He'll opt to provide me with their father.

It's a scary place to be: do you kill your dreams or do you compromise and kill them in a different way?

When do you give up? I don't know that I ever could. But I'll certainly lose most hope between now and 35.

What if I'm looking for a wife? --with or without children... velvetelvis November 16 2007, 10:58:07 UTC

This seems extremely reductive. At 50 or 60, I could conceivably marry a much younger gal? Conceivably? I'll try that as a pick up line and see how it flies, "Hey baby, how old are you? Eighteen? Well, -conceivably- we could get married and have healthy children..." Show me one of these "advantageous" marriages. But hey, maybe you're right, I never realized what an advantage that would be to me --that I could, in theory, charm some dim-witted gal, half my age, have this creepy relationship which leads to some sort of marriage, and then -wait- it gets better, because then I can put my kids in therapy when they are old enough to figure out that mom and dad are thirty years apart and everyone's family -including ours- thinks we're insane, and then my son and I can play football in the park when I'm eighty...? Perhaps you had better also show me that verse in the Bible which says, "He who finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord, but the younger ones are better, because they can have more kids." Good thing ( ... )

Re: What if I'm looking for a wife? --with or without children... kruszer December 18 2007, 16:26:09 UTC

My only point was that 40 is cutting yourself off too early. Men do tend to marry younger (and i'm not suggesting you rob the cradle - even a decade would still work in your favour).

As a male you could in theory marry at 45 a woman who is 35. Raising a family is still an option.
As a female at 45 my options wouldn't be quite as many, regardless of the potential father's age.

Re: What if I'm looking for a wife? --with or without children... velvetelvis December 19 2007, 09:01:04 UTC

So lets turn the tables... If your own health and fertility were to last into your 60's, and men lost their potency in their 50's, would it be your goal to marry a much younger man? Would a man's potency be a significant consideration in your decision to pursue a relationship with him? Is it really a better deal for women under those circumstances? At 45 would you marry a man who was 35 ( ... )

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