my bf is out of town usually 3/4 of the year. we do not live together. so i guess i like the LTR. this way i can be a monk and get stuff done and be alone like i like it. then one month a year or two i get to play girlfriend and then go on girlfriend trips. this keeps it new also unless we are sick or busy with an event( wedding,my job) he works all over the country near skanks that would blow him for a backstage pass and i completely trust him. im a cat and he is a dog. i hardly think about physical sex really. i must be a neuter. i am into mind sex. or art sex where all my friends and i be creative together, or its me and art.
Someone once said that creating with another person-be it art, music, a screenplay, etc-is the closest you can get to someone without having sex with them.
i have been with the same dude for the past 2.5 years and we still fuck like bunnies. i live with him, and find him insanely attractive despite it all. there are nights when i'm exhausted or likewise, he is, but the sex is intense, wonderful and fulfilling for both of us.
i miss the chase a little bit, but not enough to break up with my boo.
sorry this is so long, sex is my favourite subject :(iwanttobeabearFebruary 21 2008, 22:58:09 UTC
okay just for reference i'm a 16 yr old female, and i can't define my sexual orientation. i lost my virginity a few weeks after my 15th birthday, with someone i kind of liked. he was cute and i mostly just wanted to get it over with. it hurt a little, didn't last very long, had no protection and i was on my couch watching apocalypse now. after, i smoked half a pack of cigarettes with my feet dangling off a high up balcony. the next day he moved to portland, we talked about every month, he cheated on me and i didn't care (and probably cheated on him). second male partner was a sticky situation. i wouldn't have consented but i also didn't vocalize 'no!'. but i started crying and he made me go down on him and i was still crying. second time with him was full on not consensual. had a lot of little affairs, was a little tease and gave it up to no one. decided i liked girls much more than i liked boys. had flings with more people than i should admit to, still never gave it up
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Re: sorry this is so long, sex is my favourite subject :(iwanttobeabearFebruary 22 2008, 02:50:47 UTC
i don't know you so i can't say for sure, but i think it's really important to be with someone who grows at the same relative pace you do. i don't think that it's important to grow in the same ways. but you can't be exploring new waters while your partner is in a stagnant pond, you know?
seperation from my boyfriend keeps me sane. he works with kids and i spend my days working on a screenplay. we get together on the weekends and enjoy it tremendously, but the time inbetween we stay in touch but take care of our own tasks. it works really well for our relationship, for the time being.
how attracted are you to your partner(s)? What do you mean "how attracted"? There is no way I could be with someone I wasn't wildly attracted to, anymore at least. My longest relationship was only three years, so in a long-term sense I can't answer that...
do you only have sex with people you have butterflies with? I used to experiment, but it never does anything for me anymore. Given the choice of engaging a lover in an orgy or a fencing match, I'll take the fencing match nine times out of ten.
what causes you to stop being attracted to someone? It can happen so instantly, sometimes. Someone purposely trying to push me away without being a decent enough human to just say "Things are weird, lets take a breather" suck more than any other sort of person on the planet as they are spineless cowards.
(once you sleep with them, do you want more or do you move on?) Depends. Some people are only meant for short term things, some one night, some six orgasms, some six years.
how intoxicated by sex are you? (how much of your energy do you
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i hardly think about physical sex really. i must be a neuter. i am into mind sex. or art sex where all my friends and i be creative together, or its me and art.
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Someone once said that creating with another person-be it art, music, a screenplay, etc-is the closest you can get to someone without having sex with them.
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there are nights when i'm exhausted or likewise, he is, but the sex is intense, wonderful and fulfilling for both of us.
i miss the chase a little bit, but not enough to break up with my boo.
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for a 16 year old, you simplified something that was evading me. i get bored easily. seperation is the biggest turn on.
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seperation from my boyfriend keeps me sane. he works with kids and i spend my days working on a screenplay. we get together on the weekends and enjoy it tremendously, but the time inbetween we stay in touch but take care of our own tasks. it works really well for our relationship, for the time being.
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Maybe thats my problem.
Every girlfriend ive lived with, i didnt really care about sex too much.
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do you only have sex with people you have butterflies with? I used to experiment, but it never does anything for me anymore. Given the choice of engaging a lover in an orgy or a fencing match, I'll take the fencing match nine times out of ten.
what causes you to stop being attracted to someone? It can happen so instantly, sometimes. Someone purposely trying to push me away without being a decent enough human to just say "Things are weird, lets take a breather" suck more than any other sort of person on the planet as they are spineless cowards.
(once you sleep with them, do you want more or do you move on?) Depends. Some people are only meant for short term things, some one night, some six orgasms, some six years.
how intoxicated by sex are you? (how much of your energy do you ( ... )
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