since i came to college i feel the tension between kate and katie. kate is who i am now, who i see myself as, who i want to be. katie is who i was, who i left behind. so i understand the whole two names thing. its difficult to juggle the two lifestyles/people that you are.
oh and i happen to notice the two periods bookending your initials. nice job, i wonder where you got that? ;) <3 <3
David Beasley. Listen up, lovely. You name should have nothing to do with who you are, and what 'side' of you the person knows you from. Personally, I don't really care what people call me, so long as it is at least mildly unoffensive. I know you as Beasley, but only because i was introduced to you as that. I don't know you as a soccer player, or one who plays soccer, to be more correct, because i have never even seen you play. So i know you as Beasley, the socialist who is kind enough to walk people home all the way from Elm, who is crazy about music, whos had his life changed by a book, which is more than a lovely thing. Maybe, be less worried about how people refer to you, and think about the person they know you as, because that's more important. And if you'd like to be known more as a music lover 'David', then show that more. People will catch on. Or maybe they won't, and maybe i'm wrong. You never can tell.
so i guess i was using my name as an easy way to compartmenatlize how i feel about how people see me as a person... something tangible to describe the intangible way that i am and the way that people know me. so a name isn't the big thing here, it's really about who i am as a person... but i think you (this is the universal you, the you reading this now) pretty much pick up on that.
name = indentity?
anonymous
September 9 2004, 11:20:12 UTC
So I could go into this whole shpealie about the psychology behind your confusion related to your identity and your name, but nobody would understand what I was talking about...so instead I will just say that you are David Beasley, both the David and the Beasley even though they are different they are part of the one person that is you. Everyone you meet will see a different part of you depending on the conditions under which they meet you, but the people who are really smart are the ones who can realize that they can't know everything about you and that what they see is not the whole picture. I am sure this isn't very helpful...but I am Ruthie...so that should be expected. Final thought: go find some swings, they always help me to think things through and feel better about whatever is bothering me or you could call me and I can tell you bad jokes and talk about whatever silly thing you wanna talk about (but it has to be silly!)
Re: name = indentity?
anonymous
September 9 2004, 21:32:56 UTC
Big Dave, I don't want to vent so much as share the developmental psychology's take on identity which is a crisis that usually takes place in adolesence. The current data is showing that instead of resolving the crisis in adolesence, many people continue to struggle with their identities well into their 20's. According to developmental psychology, their are stages of developement in which a crisis holds more importance in a person's life. In adolesence it is supposed to be identity, then as a person developes they come to some level of resolution on the crisis that has faced them and then move on to another crisis. So the crisis that is supposed to follow the whole identity crisis, is the intimacy crisis. This involves the search for intimate relationships, which involves a lot more explaination because it isn't just finding someone to get married to... Anyway to sum up, the identity crisis sucks, but the next thing you get to tackle is intimacy and that can be just as sucky so...yeah the good thing: everyone goes through the same
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Beast! Lil Dave! I see your point. Very interesting indeed. I guess I know you by either of those monakers in different contexts too. You're the same to me either way tho. Good luck finding more David-sayers this year...and not that I know or would likely find anything wrong with the Beaser-sayers you know, but you may need to search outside of the common area or back to common David-sayer roots to find some more. Either way good luck. Be happy.
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oh and i happen to notice the two periods bookending your initials. nice job, i wonder where you got that? ;) <3 <3
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so a name isn't the big thing here, it's really about who i am as a person... but i think you (this is the universal you, the you reading this now) pretty much pick up on that.
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PS: the .db. is awesome! Keep it.
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