Prefabricated Decision Tree Conversations (aka "Social Grease")

[vesta_aurelia]

I've known Rotrude since she was, oh, 8 or 10 years old. She's definitely her mother's daughter, especially in body type. And she's being having some odd conversations where people remark on her slenderness (though she calls it "skinny" which sounds more pejorative). I've noticed this stuff before

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[aesa]

*nods* Yep, that's pretty much true

[vesta_aurelia]

they will spring it on a Female partner, too, but it's notable for the fact that they *always* expect to hear affirmation of it.

Funny that. :P

You make a number of great points--I like what you say about Panning and Scanning. I haven't thought about it that way, but it's certainly applicable. I think it's a more advanced skill, requiring on-the-fly input and processing.

[perkyandproud]

Okay, this makes so much sense now. You should teach a class, seriously. Or like a panel at a convention!

*hugs you*

[vesta_aurelia]

Only if we get Elise's sister back! I'll be on a panel with her!

[perkyandproud]

If I am to suggest this to Programming, I might need just a TAD bit more information than "Elise's sister." LOL!

[vesta_aurelia]

See replies below about Karyn Ashburne

ayup

[kargashina]

Tracks with Conversations in the Marine Corps tm. Its interesting to me that the male coworkers who know my husband stays home with the kids tend to track on the Guys version..(after we jockey about whose sales numbers are better, of course) I think i need to follow a sports team for work purposes.

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[corvideye]

Try saying "How 'bout them [Ducks/Beavers/Wombats]" and they will enthusiastically fill in the rest, while you continue to nod and occasionally say "yeah!"

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[kargashina]

i have started with the ducks in self defense.. but that only covers foot ball :(

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[vesta_aurelia]

It's better to pick an obscure team that other people either a) don't know, or b) don't care about.

On Mondays, google the team name. highlights will be covered in discussions. Pick a viewpoint and you can skate over the rest of the topic. :P

I use the Packers.

[fjorlief]

You are brilliant... or at very least your brain works in very different ways than mine, which already is far out there on some bell curve or another... I want to memorise this- I have so much difficulty ever talking to people that I have yet to be able to even observe patterns, my pattern recognition ability goes to an entirely different mode than that (I am a good thingmaker instead, which is nice in the workroom but terrible at parties

[vesta_aurelia]

This actually stemmed from a report from MiniCon. You might find it interesting, too. I started watching for this among SCAdians at the same time they made me a team lead at work. Having to speak Geek and Mundane at the same time crystalized things

[vesta_aurelia]

continued from above

[vesta_aurelia]

continued from above

> >The day before, while waiting for her sister to show up, Elise had
> >suggested that perhaps the overuse of the lips and underuse of cheeks
> >and chin had come from very small children wanting to communicate
> >complex ideas to grownups; the facial muscles still being
> >underdeveloped, the easiest way to articulate would be to concentrate
> >on the lips, holding the cheeks and chin still as a way to reduce the
> >complexity of word formation.
> >
> >I hope others who were at the panel can expand upon what I've
> >reported, especially the parts I may have ommited. It truly was the
> >most interesting lecture or panel I've ever attended, and I can't
> >recommend her too highly if you can convince her to speak at a
> >convention you're involved with. It would both give her more test
> >subjects and us more cool information .

[corvideye]

"Guys will more often say "I'm on Facebook, look me up" rather than exchanging addresses."

That makes sense, offering your address could seem too needy. This way the onus is on the other guy to seek him out.

[vesta_aurelia]

It's usually an indicator of Status, too. The higher status guy is the one saying it.