Sorry for the borrowed title... but I wanted to post some of my thoughts on love, none of which are particularly novel, but which I want to lay out nonetheless
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I think love is a constantly changing thing. It will grow if you feed and nourish it, it will die if you let it stagnate.
I know I find myself delighting in the truth from those I love rather then being lied to "out of love". That's one of the spins I put on things.
And after many years with my husband I find that I must keep working at loving him/being in love with him because we are both constantly changing. The man I met many years ago is not that man that will be the father to my child. Just like I am not completely the same woman. We are fundamentally the same people but we ebb and flow with the passage of time. And we must work together at loving one another or we will lose our love.
I think we fall in love a thousand times with the same person to keep caring about them.
I can see this...vindonnusFebruary 28 2013, 04:41:49 UTC
...and I have a similar feeling for my family.
Then it's not quite the same, and the dynamic for choosing someone to stick to is tough. Especially once you get to the point I've reached. Then perhaps I just have to grab someone and build something. It's just that my reach exceeds my grasp it seems.
Guess I need to work on my grasping after all. Oh well.
Love = a complex psycho-physiological response to arousal, often tied in some direct or indirect way to sexually motivated drives (e.g., reproduction, simple bio-electro-chemically mediated pleasure response, or protection of offspring), and typically evolving over duration of contact with the individual or object of affection. Love typically results in illogical action and behavior.
And how do you square that definition of love with the charitable "love" and other types of "love" in the Bible? Are they simply charity? Or is there some component of this love slipped in there as well?
The commingling of those feelings really fascinates me... like some sort of emotional finger-painting.
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I know I find myself delighting in the truth from those I love rather then being lied to "out of love". That's one of the spins I put on things.
And after many years with my husband I find that I must keep working at loving him/being in love with him because we are both constantly changing. The man I met many years ago is not that man that will be the father to my child. Just like I am not completely the same woman. We are fundamentally the same people but we ebb and flow with the passage of time. And we must work together at loving one another or we will lose our love.
I think we fall in love a thousand times with the same person to keep caring about them.
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Then it's not quite the same, and the dynamic for choosing someone to stick to is tough. Especially once you get to the point I've reached. Then perhaps I just have to grab someone and build something. It's just that my reach exceeds my grasp it seems.
Guess I need to work on my grasping after all. Oh well.
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Now apply it to a person worth building a life with.
And not everyone you encounter will be worth life building.
Sometimes you get lucky. I know I am blessed to have Matt.
Ever think your grasping too hard?
Love should happen naturally, not forced.
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The commingling of those feelings really fascinates me... like some sort of emotional finger-painting.
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