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vineyard_girl

Death

Aug 04, 2010 12:07

I don't really mean for the Subject to sound quite as morbid as it does, but I couldn't think of a better one ( Read more... )

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zeroshapiro August 4 2010, 16:12:56 UTC

This reminds me so much of this New Yorker article:

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2010/08/02/100802fa_fact_gawande

vineyard_girl August 5 2010, 03:17:01 UTC

Thanks so much for sharing that Elyse - I forwarded it to my mom too. I hope you're still feeling well!

nellbell79 August 4 2010, 18:47:51 UTC

I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad she went happy - like you said. I remember when some of my favorite patients (@ Rubin Dialysis Center) went for hospice care. It was sad but I was glad they were able to make that decision for themselves and spend the time they had left enjoying their family and good food. ;)

vineyard_girl August 5 2010, 03:20:45 UTC

Thanks Jeanell

kaylaraine August 4 2010, 20:42:27 UTC

I don't think that's a bad thing to say. I felt the same way when my grandparents passed. I think it is so much worse to die in pain, without much dignity or cognition left at the end. I'd definitely want my people to remember me in a good way and it sounds like you do.

Looking forward to seeing you this weekend...what a coincidence that you're attending a benefit to support research for blood cancers.

vineyard_girl August 5 2010, 03:20:22 UTC

I felt the same way when my grandma died too, although some of my family seemed so sad and I just couldn't be sad for her dying, I just thought it was what had to happen, you know?

Anyway, I'm looking forward to seeing you too and it is pretty cool that you're raising money to support research for blood cancers :)

acegraxler August 5 2010, 23:12:56 UTC

I think to be able to die well is one of the most dignified and basic things one can do in life. Working where I do it becomes abundantly clear that death is something that comes more often than not, without sense, dignity or warning.

I am sad to hear Aunt Pat is no longer around, but thankful to hear she was able to accomplish what so few get to, to be able to die as she lived, with dignity, presence of mind, and surrounded by love.

shakenbysound August 6 2010, 13:58:08 UTC

Ditto what everyone else has said. It's wonderful that she got to travel and see the important people in her life. People always ask, "Would you like to know the date you will die?" In general I would say no, but in this case I think it was the right thing.

You need to hang out with us if you're coming to the area!!