Being Shy Sucks!

[vulcmoto]

 I have been speaking with an old friend on Facebook. We hung out a lot during our later teen years and early 20s. I always thought she was pretty, and always wanted to date her. I wanted so bad to be her boyfriend. But...I am just so damned shy. Turns out she wanted to be my girlfriend, but thought I wasn't interested

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[vulcmoto]

Yeah, I've placed myself second...third...on the priority list. I need to stop doing that. Especially when I bust my ass and don't even get a little appreciation for it.

I'm going to contact my FAD worker next week and get this adoption thing back in gear. That's really the thing I want. If I do get a girlfriend, that's all fine and dandy, but it's really the adoption...the girl..I want.

Thanks for the kind words, Dee.

[den_lace]

Never apologise for not being "upbeat", if this is how you feel we want to hear and you can be sure most will understand or have been there themselves. The best part is you have recognised it are starting to get yourself back on track ..

You don't come across as shy, just cute and understanding and a hard worker with hobbies and lots of dreams, that is, reading between the lines. I hope from now on you can put yourself first. Hugs x

[vulcmoto]

Believe me....I'm beyond shy. It's pretty damned ridiculous.

[vulcmoto]

I'm not shy in social settings. Only in intimate guy on girl stuff.

[vulcmoto]

Right now, the chamber board is in my opinion divided and dysfunctional. And those that bitch the most do the least.

I think I've had all I can stand of this shit. It's past time for me to focus on me.

[tjoel2]

I've lived a lot of my life in 'what if's' and it's definitely a lonely place to be. Too many regrets there. I've been making an attempt, with recently meeting someone that I'm enjoying spending time with, to live more in the moment and enjoy the now. No more regrets.

[vulcmoto]

Oh, believe me...I don't live in "what if's" or anything like that. The way I see it, I wouldn't be where I am today if my life had not followed the path it has.

My disappointment is that this is a repeated pattern, and it still happens to this very day. That's where my frustration lies.

[tjoel2]

One can't help but live in the 'what if's'. What if you had gotten to know that woman years ago when you had the opportunity? Granted, your life would have taken a different path, but who knows....a happier one?

I agree that everything that's happened to you up until this very moment has made you who you are now. And that changes with each passing day. So change it now if you're not happy with repeated patterns.

I tend to lapse into introverted tendencies. I'm not good at social gatherings, parties or small talk. Case in point: I didn't return your phone call when you left a message thanking me for the baby quilt. I sent an e-mail instead. That's my repeated pattern.

[vulcmoto]

I never consider "what if". You can't change what has been, you can only change what's yet to come. So...why even think about it?

I believe that we are all intrinsically who we are. I can no more change my shyness than I can my eye color.

I'm awesome at social gatherings. I'm the life of the freaking party. My shyness is reserved for intimate settings, such as physical attraction and sex...and stuff like that.

[bellelvsbeast]

Aw I am sorry...:( I have been in a few situations like that where I was just too shy to get what I wanted...I learned my lesson and have gotten a lot less shy over the years. It takes a LOT OF WORK but it's so worth it. You really have nothing to lose, the worst that will happen is someone will say no to something. You won't die, the world won't end if you speak up. I have really made that a thought I remember when I am shy...:)

[vulcmoto]

I have accepted the fact that I am and always will be shy. I just think it sucks.

Believe me, I speak up. I'm the life of every freaking party. My shyness relates only to intimate settings.