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vwalk

Questioning the universe....

Dec 02, 2010 12:34

I'm in the process of changing the email address associated with my LJ account because I don't want any of my family to accidently stumble across any LJ related stuff. It occurs to me that the fact that such a huge part of my life is secret from all who know me - makes me somewhat strange ( Read more... )

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chibidraco December 2 2010, 19:37:46 UTC

Not at all. When I changed my header to a kind of suggestive Harry/Draco I knew that I would have to be more careful with my husband stumbling on it. My friends and family know not to make "gay" jokes around me because I always speak up about it (to live and let live) but they have no idea that I actually more than just support it - that I find that my best forms of entertainment actually surround slash.

They know of my love for fanfiction/ know I write it but have no idea that I am a bonifide slasher. If I were to find a like minded RL friend that enjoyed this I could share, but I would not want to spend my time constantly defending why I like what I like (I have a very nasty temper)with the friends and family.... but I'm sure that people we know keep their kinks a secret from us too. So we like boys who likes boys... there are a lot of people like us out there :D

vwalk December 2 2010, 22:34:45 UTC

You situation sounds almost exactly like mine. My husband would be EXTREMELY UPSET to find out that I like slash as much as I do or that I'm as involved in it as I am. He knows that I read some fanfic (though he likes to maintain plausible deniability so we never talk about it or acknowledge it in any way). But he has no idea of the content.
I never thought about other people I know keeping 'kinky' secrets. :D Guess I'm not as 'different' as I thought.
Thanks

enchanted_jae December 2 2010, 20:21:15 UTC

You're not as weird as you think you are; I'm the same way. No one in RL knows the name of my LJ, and I have a separate email account for it, too.

I keep fandom and rl very separate, for my own peace of mind, and I don't feel guilty about it at all. Neither should you. Do what you must so YOU'RE comfortable, and don't worry about the rest.

vwalk December 2 2010, 22:23:21 UTC

Very sound advice, thank you. Glad to know I'm not the only one who keeps LJ and RL totally separate - and apart.

sesheta_66 December 2 2010, 21:45:16 UTC

What Jae said. No one (except my sister, who introduced me to LJ) knows. NO ONE. I shudder to think of how my friends & family would react. And frankly, I, like chibidraco, would not want to constantly defend my choices.

vwalk December 2 2010, 22:37:22 UTC

Its interesting that three of my favorite authors have answered my question.

:D *hugs you all*.

I'm feeling a lot more comfortable about maintaining my separate identity. Not that I could give it up - but its always nice to know you're not alone.
Thanks.

sesheta_66 December 2 2010, 23:17:17 UTC

Awwwwwwwwwww. *hugs* Thanks!

stellamoon March 5 2011, 14:53:54 UTC

*waves* I just stopped by to say Hi and check out "who you are", so to speak, after you recently commented at my LJ. After reading this post of yours, I HAD TO respond ( ... )

vwalk March 7 2011, 17:18:55 UTC

Thank you so much for commenting. It is very lonely and I must admit it takes a bit of work on my part to keep my 'secret.' BUT I love it and am unwilling to give it up right now. Its very nice to know that though I am now doubt a bit weird (just enough to be interesting of course :D) ... I'm in excellent company.)