Not the usual

[wanton_lucidity]

So Saturday morning I had an interesting exchange with my husband. He expressed a concern that I was seeking out a better husband. Honestly, we've had such discussions before and based upon his arguements, I truly believe that as long as I don't leave him, he'd happily let me do as I wish

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Contrary? Heaven forbid.

[zutroy]

You are far from the first woman I've met who feels (and acts) in this way, and I'm certain you won't be the last.

Three of my closest friends, at different points in my life, were exactly the same.

Re: Contrary? Heaven forbid.

[wanton_lucidity]

I wish women would do a better job of talking about it. While I suspect it would be hard to imagine a topic that women don't talk about, I assure you that there are. In general terms, I find women to be far too competitive to be really honest. I haven't found a female confidant here in Texas, but I know they're out there. In Minnesota, I had several who were very understanding and able to serve my need for discussion of my illicit activities.

There's really no reason for me to feel so alone in this.

Re: Contrary? Heaven forbid.

[zutroy]

I haven't found a female confidant here in Texas, but I know they're out there. In Minnesota, I had several who were very understanding and able to serve my need for discussion of my illicit activities.

I know what you mean. I've had plenty of close female confidants everywhere I've lived...except here. Texas, Minnesota, fucking Seoul...but not here. I've had to make do with phoning old friends, or using the 'Net to simply vent from time to time. I'd look harder for one, but I have the sneaking suspicion that in another few months I'll get "surprise" orders back to Seoul.

There's really no reason for me to feel so alone in this.

Indeed. You aren't. You just haven't found the right person nearby to let you know that.

Re: Contrary? Heaven forbid.

[soulseeker7]

That might have more to do with cultural differences between Texas, smack in the middle of the Bible belt and Minnesota. This was blatantly pointed out to me once.
Not that people think differently here, but social pressures keep them from being as open about things that might be percieved by others as 'immoral'.
Sorry that you don't have many in whom you can confide.

[nobodobodon]

Oh my. When I read the first couple lines of this, I thought... I hoped... Anyway, I got a little dizzy, and then read the rest, and now my head's not reeling anymore.

Anyway, it's good to have these kinds of discussions. This is a good start. If you ever want me to have a talk with him... about my wife, of course, of course.

need for me to defend myself and my actions to those with whom I choose to share my secrets, has left me feeling rather alone for the past couple of days.

You're not alone.

I sometimes feel that way, too. One of my oldest friends in town complains that he feels I shut him out. Well, no, I just got tired of him judging me every other time I'd open up about what was on my mind, because half the time what was on my mind was something he thought was "immature".

[wanton_lucidity]

You crack me up!

[nobodobodon]

Which is funnier, my offer to talk to your husband, or my pining for you?

[wanton_lucidity]

Easily the pining.

both of us

[captainwhimsy]

me and my hunny both have things going on outside our marriage, but we always come home to sleep. and we talk talk talk about it. :)

Go you! Understanding makes it tres cool!

Re: both of us

[wanton_lucidity]

I'm wondering how you handle jealousy?

Re: both of us

[nobodobodon]

I'll go out on a limb and guess "talk talk talk" is the answer...

[rouge22]

I KNOW the feelin......of course,once potential interests see my pic, they tend to vanish.......strange.

[wanton_lucidity]

Well than it's a damn good thing that you choose not to let such things get you down. ;-)

It's also a good thing that I'm not the kind of girl who puts a lot of weight into photos. I repeatedly find that it is a great number of intangibles that hold the power of attraction. Otherwise, I might think you were speaking to me.

[rouge22]

awwwwww,dont get ur panties in a bind!

just chiding you a bit. I know better.

Still be my Valentine?

[soulseeker7]

I struggle with this one often myself.
There have been many times when I've been out with two different women who were both a match for me but in different ways. Why can't I have them both? Why does love have to be so exclusive?

I admit that I am extremely rebellious and will struggle against any restrictions or rules placed on me and that I am also polyamorous by nature. These things combined make me long for the freedom of an open relationship. Because to me, love is not about restrictions it's about freedoms. The saftey and security I find there make me long to take flight.

But I can't, at least not openly and if it's not open then it's still a restriction that rubs me raw.

So yes, I do understand you.

[wanton_lucidity]

Very well put. Thank you.