I've come to accept that children I meet will ask me if I'm fat, or why I'm fat. Yes, because people come in different shapes and sizes
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I'm waiting for my turn as a parent. At some point I'm going to get questions like "Why is that person black?" or "Why does she walk funny?", and that'll be okay. What I'm hoping to avoid is questions which include prejudicial assumptions.
I think the media plays into it somewhat - characters she may have seen on TV and the like... She is 4, so she doesn't have the ability to filter that stuff yet - she just believes what she sees or what people tell her. I think you handled the situation with aplomb, hopefully as she becomes more sentient, she will be able to see things in as less black and white.
I have seen folks with bigger frames have some of the most graceful movements and folks who're a bag o' bones be incredibly awkward - it's not our frame that makes us one way or the other, but our awareness of our own physicality.
I go one way and the other - sometimes I'm a sawn, and sometimes I'm a buffalo in the way that I move. ;-)
I think the funniest part was that James thought the girl was saying "Fast", and so proceeded to tell her
"Ya, my mom really fast, she goes fast, fast, vrooooom!" To which the girl replied "No, FAT", But I'm not sure James knows what "fat" is, so again "My mom so fast, she run really fast and catch me"
I realized when I was on maternity leave, when I was going to the gym 5 days a week and eating healthy, I didn't lose weight, and my figure was not changing noticeably despite cardio, ab workouts, weight training, and all the other good stuff. This, more or less, is my shape
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Ahhh...in that case, there may be a bit of "Monkey See, Monkey Do" going on there. Mommy may be a bit of an opinionated, outgoing person and little baby girl may be absorbing it all and figuring that's how she is supposed to be. Could be just a behavioral predilection too for all we know. God knows I did things as a kid that embarrassed the crap out of my parents - blunt and tactless as they were.
As for your shape being your shape, yeah, just walking through my family's pictures on Mom's side seals my fate. And you know, the medical profession (while scolding us all) STILL hasn't really answered why some people can eat like a whole cow and not gain a pound and some people can just see an ad for a french fry on the tele and gain ten.
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I'm waiting for my turn as a parent. At some point I'm going to get questions like "Why is that person black?" or "Why does she walk funny?", and that'll be okay. What I'm hoping to avoid is questions which include prejudicial assumptions.
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I have seen folks with bigger frames have some of the most graceful movements and folks who're a bag o' bones be incredibly awkward - it's not our frame that makes us one way or the other, but our awareness of our own physicality.
I go one way and the other - sometimes I'm a sawn, and sometimes I'm a buffalo in the way that I move. ;-)
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"Ya, my mom really fast, she goes fast, fast, vrooooom!"
To which the girl replied "No, FAT",
But I'm not sure James knows what "fat" is, so again "My mom so fast, she run really fast and catch me"
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As for your shape being your shape, yeah, just walking through my family's pictures on Mom's side seals my fate. And you know, the medical profession (while scolding us all) STILL hasn't really answered why some people can eat like a whole cow and not gain a pound and some people can just see an ad for a french fry on the tele and gain ten.
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