I don't think I could ever do something like that for sex is a sacred thing to me and I believe it should really be something special between two people not this wham bam thank you ma'am bullshit but to each their own. I honestly can't judge here for I'm pretty much doing the same thing in a way. Friends with benefits. I can't handle relationships anymore.
i like your point: there is a place and time for them.
i've had several now, but it's never a wham-bam type of thing. it's typically more than just the act and i develop some sort of lasting relationship with that person, whether lasting or not.
gender is societal, biology (sex/genetics) isn't. we are taught gender and part of this teaching is how to act in sexual situations. for instance, men are certainly given more freedom and approval to engage in behavior like one-night stands in american culture. for women on the other hand, it can wreak widespread havoc on your reputation. going back to the stud/slut predicament - very different labels being used for the same behavior!
i also have to say that it is often different for homosexual women and heterosexual women. a one-night stand is rarely just about sex, i think. it's more about nurturing a mutual connection than feeling pressured to act or be a certain way sexually. different power dynamic too. also much lower risk for STDs and no risk for pregnancy (duh haha).
One night stands can be really positive and fun, or they can be really disappointing. They're still a valid sexual experience though and I do the occasional one.
When I had just got out of a serious relationship I couldn't face the idea of entering another for ages, but I still had a desire for physical intimacy and sex. So I had a few really good one night stands, the most recent of which actually did turn into a relationship because I was finally ready to move on.
The whole 'science says it's bad' thing is bollocks, just for the record. It's been disproved a number of times, and on an anecdotal level, my friends with the healthiest relationships are the ones who HAVE been round the block a few times, because they know what they want, they have better communication skills and they have a much better understanding of the work necessary in a relationship because they've explored a bit more.
What I thought initially would be a one night stand is the man I am marrying! I believe if people are comfortable with it, go for it. You never know what may happen....maybe the openness of being prepared to just get down makes everything more comfortable.
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i've had several now, but it's never a wham-bam type of thing. it's typically more than just the act and i develop some sort of lasting relationship with that person, whether lasting or not.
gender is societal, biology (sex/genetics) isn't. we are taught gender and part of this teaching is how to act in sexual situations. for instance, men are certainly given more freedom and approval to engage in behavior like one-night stands in american culture. for women on the other hand, it can wreak widespread havoc on your reputation. going back to the stud/slut predicament - very different labels being used for the same behavior!
i also have to say that it is often different for homosexual women and heterosexual women. a one-night stand is rarely just about sex, i think. it's more about nurturing a mutual connection than feeling pressured to act or be a certain way sexually. different power dynamic too. also much lower risk for STDs and no risk for pregnancy (duh haha).
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When I had just got out of a serious relationship I couldn't face the idea of entering another for ages, but I still had a desire for physical intimacy and sex. So I had a few really good one night stands, the most recent of which actually did turn into a relationship because I was finally ready to move on.
The whole 'science says it's bad' thing is bollocks, just for the record. It's been disproved a number of times, and on an anecdotal level, my friends with the healthiest relationships are the ones who HAVE been round the block a few times, because they know what they want, they have better communication skills and they have a much better understanding of the work necessary in a relationship because they've explored a bit more.
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