FWB

[ljen]

How do you feel about friends with benefits?

(submitted by heavensnight67)

Not the movie-- that was a trainwreck. ;)

Comments

[brenbell]

I think it depends on the people invovled. It can be a good thing when people are in sync with each other. On the other it can be a real nightmare when one person starts thinking that the relationship is more than what it is.

[gommyommy]

Sounds great, at least in theory. I always wondered why we could couldn't just get snuggly and sexy with our friends. But there are always STDs to worry about.

Have you read "Sex at Dawn"?

[mondengel]

I personally wouldn't like to do it, but I don't really mind that people do. It's probably better, if you have sexual needs, to sort something out with someone you know well rather than going out sleeping with random people. There can be the problem where the lines between fwb and relationship are blurred for one person, but that's another story.

[inever]

yes

[tabular_rasa]

It depends on the participants. For some people, having someone familiar to enjoy sex with without the labels and pressure of a relationship is ideal, and so they mutually enjoy the situation. However, sometimes FWB is only what one person wants; the other may secretly want more but accepts it because their feelings for the other person make them willing to take whatever they can get, but they can't deny their feelings forever and it turns into a very sticky situation. Or they both start out thinking it's a casual thing and then one changes their mind later on and is disappointed to find the same transformation wasn't mutual.

Personally, it's not for me. I'm kind of intense and a bit "I want it all or nothing" when it comes to relationships. I'm not even good at having friends who aren't best friends, because it's hard for me to hold back on investing my emotions in people. I think it would be impossible for me to enjoy a FWB scenario without wanting something more.