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[ljen]

Do you have access to your significant other's phone? I don't mean, you have his passcode, but are they pretty comfortable with you using it if you want?

Is it normal if they take the phone everywhere with them, including the bathroom, so you can't see it?

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[tabular_rasa]

My bf doesn't mind if look at his phone. This precedent was set on a long road trip when he drove most of the time (I hate driving) while I navigated with the map app on the phone, and I kept having to ask him if he wanted to me check the incoming messages and mail. Since then whenever we're in the car together I'm kind of like phone secretary, lol, relaying messages to him and responding to them for him so it gets done but he can focus on driving.

However, that's in his presence. I don't pick up the phone or read/respond to his text messages for him if he's out of the room unless he specifically instructs me to, and I certainly don't snoop through chat logs with an agenda or even out of bored curiosity. Those are his business.

Is it normal if they take the phone everywhere with them, including the bathroom, so you can't see it?
I think it would be a little extreme for a SO to be that protective of their phone. To me, that signifies a breach of trust along the same lines as snooping on the phone in the first place: It shows that you

[starisee]

My cheatin ex kept his phone emptier than factory default settings. Sneaky is sneaky, they just find new sneakier ways of hiding their behavior if that is how they are.

[midnight_birth]

I don't think there is a "normal" stage here. People are so varied about their privacy. I mean, yes, I can see why you can be suspicious if your significant other goes to extremes to protect their phone from you, but the truth is most people probably wouldn't be comfortable with people looking through their personal correspondence, and a LOT of people wouldn't be able to resist if they had a little one-on-one time with someone else's phone, especially if that someone else is your significant other/someone you're interested in.

Personally, I have my phone, and he or she can have theirs, and I have my boundaries, and whatever theirs happen to be is cool and I try to respect it.

[princess_kessie]

No passwords on our phones. Pretty much communal property in our marriage - and neither of us has anything to hide. He doesn't need to take it to the bathroom, since the iPad is used for reading...

Now if he suddenly placed a password on his phone and did not explicitly tell me what it was? That'd be a red flag to me.

[courtney1218]

I feel passcodes are used to hide something. Take it from experience. My fiance and I have full access to one anothers phone whenever one pleases.