"Domestic," lifestyles don't have to come with Ansel Adams on the wall and a Kiss The Cook apron. The best probably don't. To view a monogamous domestic relationship as, "putting all your eggs in one basket," implies that there aren't infinite other choices in life, aside from who you are with. If you do indeed base all your decisions on that, then you're probably fucked. But that's not neccessarily the fault of a stable domestic relationship. Take me, for instance. We have Frank Miller and Dave McKean on the walls. Both Brian and I cook. We have pets. We live with Angie. We have some different interests, but we share a career. We aren't going to have children. You don't have to become the middle-age stereotype to be domesticated. I think all you have to be is happy and comfortable. (something which alot of domestic couples don't seem to be.) Of course settling down shouldn't be the goal, but maintaining your lifestyle and retaining a sense of relaxation at home isn't something to fight against.
i think it goes two ways. i'm all for monogamous relatioships and such. However, i think that there's a dangerous line of shutting other people out in favor of being comfortable. i honestly don't think you and brian have a domestic lifestyle. Part of that also has to do with living, as a couple, on your own. no one HAS to be domesticated and i'm sure that all in all, i'm preaching to the choir on this one, but i think it's dangerous when you start to break away from freinds..... i love my friends. i will be spending more time with them around the holidays than anyone else (although not by choice). i can't imagine spending it with just me and a girl......
Absolutely. While Brian and I have lived with just ourselves before, and plan to again, the idea of breaking away from friends is absurd. I'll never date anyone that would compromise my friendships. Spending the holidays with just one person seems to be missing the point of them.
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To view a monogamous domestic relationship as, "putting all your eggs in one basket," implies that there aren't infinite other choices in life, aside from who you are with.
If you do indeed base all your decisions on that, then you're probably fucked. But that's not neccessarily the fault of a stable domestic relationship.
Take me, for instance. We have Frank Miller and Dave McKean on the walls. Both Brian and I cook. We have pets. We live with Angie. We have some different interests, but we share a career. We aren't going to have children.
You don't have to become the middle-age stereotype to be domesticated. I think all you have to be is happy and comfortable. (something which alot of domestic couples don't seem to be.)
Of course settling down shouldn't be the goal, but maintaining your lifestyle and retaining a sense of relaxation at home isn't something to fight against.
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no one HAS to be domesticated and i'm sure that all in all, i'm preaching to the choir on this one, but i think it's dangerous when you start to break away from freinds..... i love my friends. i will be spending more time with them around the holidays than anyone else (although not by choice). i can't imagine spending it with just me and a girl......
make sense?
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While Brian and I have lived with just ourselves before, and plan to again, the idea of breaking away from friends is absurd. I'll never date anyone that would compromise my friendships.
Spending the holidays with just one person seems to be missing the point of them.
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