+1 Ettiquite?

[newreflections]

Hello everyone. Just a quick recap, Im getting married in October of this year. We have a lot of things already set- our venue, my dress, photographer, food and cupcakes :) But still have a lot to do.. Mainly we havent set our guest list yet. Im having a bit of a dilemma when it comes to adding +1s. There are a few of my friends that are dating

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[oh_muffy]

The +1 situation is def a pain in the dick. The way we did it was friends who had been dating people a long time, were engaged, or dating someone that was already a mutual friend/someone we really liked, naturally they got a +1. People who were in like on again off again relationships or dating someone who was kind of a douche, we asked them what they wanted to do & then addressed the invitation accordingly. A lot of people declined if their SO was weird or it was a weird situation, just because they knew they'd have more fun on their own with our huge group of friends in attendance!

[sassie_kat]

Our general rule for +1s when we sent out the invites was living together/engaged/SERIOUS (as in, not my cousin's flavor of the month) significant others got invited by name on the envelope. Bridal party was exempt from the rule and those who were single did get a general +1 although neither of our single attendants ended up bringing a guest. We didn't extend +1s to those people who "might not know anybody" because we really didn't have the room and we worked really hard to make sure that the guests would have somebody to talk to at their table. Also, other than dinner, people ended up all over our dining room so it didn't matter too much about seating assignments

[lumpyhead]

This as well for us. I lifted the rule for my brothers because they were in the bridal party, and I figured they'd have more fun with dates.

[eightydollsyell]

we cut it off at living together/engaged. There were a few couples who got invited together because they would have been invited separately.

[karnerblue]

If they're married, engaged or long-term dating, they get a +1. Otherwise, you totally don't have to unless you actually want to.

[blueirisheyez]

Agreed.

We sent Save the Dates to everyone.

[lissiehoya]

We did the if they were living together or engaged, we invited their significant other by name on the invitation. We didn't do any generic +1s. A couple people asked about bringing +1s and we ended up allowing some when RSVPs came in and we saw we had the room.

We sent Save the Dates to everyone, but I think some people only do it for those who have to travel.