They didn't invite me, do I have to invite their partner?

[contradictz]

There've been a couple of weddings where I've not been invited as a +1 to a wedding where my partner was (quite good) friends with one or both of the couple. Mind you, we've been in a relationship since 2009 and engaged since July 2012. I found it really rude that I wasn't invited. Would it now be rude if I said no to inviting a +1 to those friends

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[oh_muffy]

Ha! Girlfriend I totally feel you!!! I had two couples like that at my wedding & the similar moral dilemma, even my husband felt the same way!
One was a wedding he was actually in, we went to college with the bride & groom, the groom is his best friend, the bride wouldn't invite me because I was in a different sorority at our college than her & her bridesmaids & majority of her friends invited & they didn't want me there. I DIE! WTF! hahahahaha
BUT! That was 5yrs ago & we did invite them to our wedding which was a little after that (naturally crazy bride's husband was in our wedding) and we have actually become better friends since then, since she lost the super srat mentality; this couple is coming to visit us next weekend & stay for a couple days! lol

[lumpyhead]

There's a time and place to pick your battles, inviting someone's spouse or not merely over that fact that you weren't invited to their wedding as your partner's +1 isn't one of them. Plus, making your friends have to pick between their spouse and going to a wedding? It's kind of a sure fire way to make sure those friendships come to a rapid close. They will most likely pick their spouse every time because you know… they're married and stuff and that's what they should do.

Take the high road. Invite both. Be gracious and welcoming. End up looking amazing despite your feelings being hurt in the past. This is a lovely opportunity for you to forgive and forget, and who knows, perhaps your relationship will become better with those couple(s) because of it.