(Untitled)

[dancing_ghost]

My husband and I got married in September, and one of our guests is getting married in two weeks. He lives about 100 miles away from us, so he traveled to our wedding and spent quite a bit of money on our gifts. He is a lot more well off than we are. After spending the money to travel to his wedding, we won't have very much money to spend on his

Comments

[blessedrelease]

I honestly doubt he is thinking about the cost of the gift at all. Don't stress.

[polarbunny]

I wouldn't worry about it! I think your presence at his wedding would mean more to him than the actual cost/value of the gift. And if you weren't already planning on doing this, maybe include a heartfelt card about thanking them for including you in their special day, how much you value their friendship, etc etc as part of the gift (you can even give it to the couple at the wedding separately, if you're ordering their gift online). Those personal touches go a super long way with weddings.

[vampedgoddess]

I second this. Being there is way more important than a more costly gift, and the extra personal touches are really thoughtful and will even be able to be saved away in a box or album by the bride (even if you're their for the groom). It's great to look back on cards and thank you notes when most gifts (even the nicest, priciest gifts) expire or break or get used up.

Besides, as you said he is in a much better place financially so the gift probably wasn't even a concern when he got his. He probably worried the same amount you are but obviously the scales would be different.

[blueirisheyez]

I know it's easier said than done (I am the same way). It's the thought that counts and your presence is what is more important. Don't sweat it!

[runningnekkid]

If he would be more concerned with the cost of your gift than the gift of your support for his marriage, then you shouldn't bother going to his wedding anyway. He's a jerk. But most likely your friend totally knows that he has more disposable income to spend on gifts, etc, and doesn't at all expect dollar amount reciprocity from his friends. Bet on him being generous and kind, and if he's not, well then leave that at his door. Get as meaningful a gift as you can comfortably afford and tell him in person how honored you are to be a part of his wedding celebration. And enjoy the time out of town with your husband!

Also, congratulations on your own marriage! I hope you had a fantastic wedding. :)

[doeeyedbecky]

I wouldn't sweat it... Your presence is more important than a gift.