That would have been a good idea, but there was no bathroom - just two porta-potties. =/ For part of the social hour I went to watch the picture-taking session, but I was the only guest who went to do that and I kept feeling awkward and left.
This is another reason to hate head tables -- if you're going to let people sit with their spouses (and please do!), don't still make them all sit at a head table with you, 'cause awkward stuff like this can happen. It doesn't even matter if you personally have anxiety issues: I think ANYONE would've been uncomfortable with that, being the only one sitting at the head table before the bridal party arrives. I certainly would've.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! I would've been freaking out.
I also appreciate that you posted this. Even though I've already gotten married, I think it's super helpful to hear things that people didn't like about weddings when planning your own. Because like you said, the bride was probably trying to be thoughtful, but it turned out really badly. So it's good for people to know things they maybe shouldn't do.
I had a head table at my wedding, but only my MOH and BM sat with us. They were both single at the time and neither brought dates, so I had no problem putting them with us. The rest of the bridal party did have SOs, so we let them sit with everyone else so they could be together and not have things be awkward.
I did not have a head table at my wedding. Everyone in the bridal party had dates, and I didn't want to separate them. DH and I had a table alone and then two round tables flanked us. We split the party and their dates/spouses between the two tables so that during picture time/social hour, the dates could socialize with each other without strictly being at the "head table." It was the best solution we could think of, and as far as I could tell it worked pretty well (I didn't hear complaints, and at least three people in the party pointed out that they really like the seating arrangements.)
I dislike head tables, but moreso because most often the bride and groom do not plan well for the significant others. I've been stuck at a table full of people I didn't know because my husband was in a wedding that I was not in. On the other hand, I would be much happier to be at a head table, and personally I probably wouldn't have been self-conscious about sitting down alone at the head table before the bridal party came in. I would be really grateful for the couple being gracious enough to host me there.
Two of my friends just got married and the one thing they actually did that they wanted was have a sweetheart table. I think their families were fighting for a traditional head table, but they had a sweetheart table and I think it turned out well (plus I was sitting at an awesome table, since half my friends were in the wedding party lol).
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I also appreciate that you posted this. Even though I've already gotten married, I think it's super helpful to hear things that people didn't like about weddings when planning your own. Because like you said, the bride was probably trying to be thoughtful, but it turned out really badly. So it's good for people to know things they maybe shouldn't do.
I had a head table at my wedding, but only my MOH and BM sat with us. They were both single at the time and neither brought dates, so I had no problem putting them with us. The rest of the bridal party did have SOs, so we let them sit with everyone else so they could be together and not have things be awkward.
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Two of my friends just got married and the one thing they actually did that they wanted was have a sweetheart table. I think their families were fighting for a traditional head table, but they had a sweetheart table and I think it turned out well (plus I was sitting at an awesome table, since half my friends were in the wedding party lol).
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