Yes, SP is a loss. I do love him in a special way, but he is quite senseless & too much trouble.
I'm concerned I'm ignoring the red flags about M out of desperation. But, I suppose if his sister gives the green light, she would do so with full knowledge of what we're getting into. If I were allowed to be as weird as I am, I'd draw up a renewable monthly contract.
My worry is that he (like most people) cannot hold to logic over emotion. I can. I can be devastated and still have a conversation in which it's sensibly discussed, with full disclosure. Most people get wrapped up in their feelings and try to protect themselves by withholding. Someone like M could be even worse, because he is in constant pain and not in control of his emotional outbursts. AND there's extra accountability on my part because he's my bff's brother.
Well, either way, I guess I'll just let it run its own path. Next time I'm over there, I'll talk to them each. No sense in moving forward blindly.
Right. I try to avoid potential trauma on either side, because these situations tend to be abnormally explosive for me. I would never forgive myself if something happened to my friendship with Em.
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I'm concerned I'm ignoring the red flags about M out of desperation. But, I suppose if his sister gives the green light, she would do so with full knowledge of what we're getting into. If I were allowed to be as weird as I am, I'd draw up a renewable monthly contract.
My worry is that he (like most people) cannot hold to logic over emotion. I can. I can be devastated and still have a conversation in which it's sensibly discussed, with full disclosure. Most people get wrapped up in their feelings and try to protect themselves by withholding. Someone like M could be even worse, because he is in constant pain and not in control of his emotional outbursts. AND there's extra accountability on my part because he's my bff's brother.
Well, either way, I guess I'll just let it run its own path. Next time I'm over there, I'll talk to them each. No sense in moving forward blindly.
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